Together 11 years. We both did things we're not proud of. We were at an impasse - so I ended it (nicely). Now, 6 months later - he is seeing somebody - but I think it is more for comfort. I told him I love him more than anyone in the world. He admitted he missed me & thought about me too, but he is burned & has a wall up. How do I break down that wall gently?
2006-08-04 06:11:07 · 19 answers · asked by CoronaGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U can't break down the wall gently, u have 2 take the wall down slowly and carefully, lot's of guys will get another girl for comfort, and that means they miss the person they were with, but now, if he has found someone else he really likes, you might be out of his life, it is easier to forget the pain, then to take the pain, show him wat he really means 2 you, u never know, maybe he still loves you, good luck and cheer up, just remember, take the wall down, don't break it down.
2006-08-04 06:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by LonelyPsycho...I Need A Hug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two might keep finding your way back. Because your use to this level of dis function, we have all been in relationship with people that are filled with BS,good sex and make ups to break up. Eventually you just stop and get a healthy relationship. With that said I think you should leave him alone 11yrs. Is along time to live like this .
2006-08-04 13:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being a friend. Don't push anything more at this point. Let him know that you are there to listen whenever he needs to talk about things. Trust cannot be forced, it will build up over time.
2006-08-04 13:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persistence. You've got to prove that you're not only willing to forgive, but to put the past in the past. And the only way to do that is to be patient and show that you aren't just interested in him because he is with somebody else, or because you are lonely. It will take time (unfortunately).
2006-08-04 13:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by JCS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u talk him becaues maybe he is still hurting and he found some 1 maybe
P.S 11 year is a long time did u think about it before u call it off
2006-08-04 13:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If you were still not married after 11 years, you had nothing with which to begin, anyway.
2006-08-04 13:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants to meet or something.If not try to have someone set u guys up and u meet at some place not noing.
2006-08-04 13:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by carebare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep pushing he'll put up more walls. like everybody says, give it some time and see what happens.
2006-08-04 13:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always say time will tell. Give him the time to miss you and then he will realize what he has lost.
2006-08-04 13:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time..just hang out together and talk...things happen for a reason. if it was meant to be things will work out in time.
2006-08-04 13:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by countrylovinggirl81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋