My husband and I have been married 8 yrs. He was and is the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. He's a hard worker, but very quiet and doesnt share himself very well. I mean to get any info from him is the 20 question game and Im tried of being in the dark Im a talk things out person,he thinks if we dont talk things will go away. I do love this man but am so very unhappy. We havent had a real conversation in months. He go's to work comes home eats dinner then will stay outside till time for bed. This is very serious to me please no hate answers.
2006-08-04 06:08:54 · 9 answers · asked by pinkylee-35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, something is wrong. He could be stressed financially, which is the biggest reason couples fight or have problems. he masy be stressed with work. Or may not feel good health reasons. Try to get him to open up, tell him"this is how you are making me feel" shut out, avoided, ignored. if this still doesn't work suggest marraige counseling, I have it has helped lots. Good Luck!
2006-08-04 06:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by AL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him for a few days and do your own thing, go to the movies or watch a movie in another room things like that, but only for a couple of days, see if he misses you, if he does he will search you out. If he doesn't you should get to the bottom of it. Some people just get into a slump, so hopefully it is something that easy and not serious. But if you are woried enough to ask a world wide audience then you need to find out. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-04 06:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by Papa Dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. I have some thoughts: Can you write him a letter, tell him how you wish things could be better, remind him of all the reasons you fell in love with him?
Would he then be willing to go on a date with you to a quiet place to talk? If money is tight, the date could be on a park bench to talk. You could bring a picnic dinner.
Another idea is to go to the public library and get a few books on how to improve couple communication.
Best wishes to you!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-08-04 06:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...yes he seems preoccupied but not in love you can not guess until you are told or see behavior that demonstrates it. Have you considered saying to him...I am emotionally lonely and am concerned that I cannot turn to you because I am picking up that you are preoccupied. or something to that effect. also ask questions that can not have a yes or no answer. and most of all make yourself do something else (not affair) like volunteer or hangout @ the flea market I don;t know...but sitting around "in the dark" will only drive u crazy
2006-08-04 06:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong...Sit him down and say, I love you, and I am trying so hard to make this marriage work...but I can't if you don't talk to me...Will please share with me, what is wrong or what you are feeling so I can help us? I feel left out and lonely....Don't accuse him just listen and if that doesn't work, I would seek some counseling for myself because this is serious situation....Good Luck!!
2006-08-04 06:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by "gg" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u r doing is ur part as his wife and sounds like he isn't acknowledging that. see if u can get him into counseling. u r the one person he should b able 2 talk 2.
2006-08-04 06:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has invested himself emotionally somewhere else. For reasons only he knows. Try some marriage counseling, it can help.
2006-08-04 06:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell him you arent happy and dont feel fulfilled any more. Maybe if he knows you are serious and its about to end your relationship, he will come around and agree to seek counselling!
2006-08-04 06:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling, if he'll go
2006-08-04 14:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Completly in love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋