I am a man & my best friend is a female so i send her a letter and her husband nows that I see her as a sister but why in the f**k does he have to get pissed off if i say i love her he knows i like another girl. I want to beat the sh*t out of him. He's a deadbeat who sends his wife to a strip club to work anyway cause he is to lazy to be a man.There is nothing wrong with a woman stripping for money but he is just slimy about it & slacks off.I dont tell him this but if he keeps it up i am gonna put him in his place.
2006-08-04 05:59:51 · 16 answers · asked by metal maniac 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He knows he is a worthless piece of crap and feels threatened that you may steal her away. He obviously has no self esteem or he wouldn't allow her to work while he sits and does nothing to help out financially.
2006-08-04 06:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the nature of men which has been established long before you and I were ever born. Back in the Garden, everything changed. This jealousy and insecurity is only a by-product. If you can understand this, then the actions of other people would not disturb you so. You have to learn to 'see' the bigger picture. Now think about it - don't you know this man already know what a dead beat he is? Don't you think he realizes that you are the foundation and groundwork for a better "relationship" with "his" woman - whether you are actually 'saying' those words or not? His method of 'control' is doing exactly what he does -sends his wife out ..but the bottom line is - why does "she" accept this? There is a connection with the two of them that perhaps you don't even understand. There are people who connect with others that they "know" are not right - but because of their own low self-esteem, they submit to the cruelty of this imposition. Here you come - bright and shinning armored -rescue guy - and they still don't see the light. In fact, whether you can 'see' it or not, you have now become a pawn in this chess game. My friend, please accept my advice - I've been there and done that - you need to leave friend-girl alone. Yes, you might just be friends, but if her 'man' sees this dififerently, you have no right to step into their relationship and 'demand' friendship status and even to the point that you are willing to commit violent acts upon this man? (beating the you-know-what out of him can land you some jail time - is that wise counsel? ) Come on- you are sounding more and more out of place than he does. You are obsessed and in order to maintain your own sanity, good will, joy, peace of mind and clear spiritual awakening, you must get out of this thing. And a personal sidebar - I do think there is something wrong with a woman stripping. It's a mind-set. Someone has to "teach" this woman that her body is her temple and no one else has the right to view the temple unless it is her husband. Our young women and men are being destroyed for lack of knowledge and wisdom. I encourage you to step up to the plate and do the right thing. Men are not so much insecure as they are unable to deal with the realities of life and accept the position that God has given them - to be the head - and not the tail, to guide and teach and direct their homes and their lives. It is all a ploy that satan has and continues to gain merit. We who believe in all that is fair and righteous in the world, must help those who are confused and on the fence. I love you friend, and as a child of God , I only want to see the best for you. You have the ability to make the changes needed to increase purpose in your life. I encourage you to do so. Peace.
2006-08-04 06:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a woman and i thought because they want to be somebody's daddy.. if i were u i'd stop sending the letters only because u have no idea what he is doing to her behind closed doors after he reads them.. it's obvious that he's insecure...
and a lil note, just cause u like another girl that don't mean u can't like a 2nd girl...
u need to visit her or contact her by phone and let her know that u and her need to talk and then tell her how u don't appreciate how he's treating her and that she deserves better..
2006-08-04 06:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband has a friend that comes over practically every weekend. My husband gets extremly jealous, if I laugh at his jokes, answer his e-mails or talk to him on the phone. (Entirely innocent) I know something tramatic happened to my husband to make him so insecure in a previous relationship, maybe that is what happened in your case.
2006-08-04 06:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by pink30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's white trash jerk. Just wait untill he dumps her. There is no better place than a falling net/Mr. Rebound.
Just keep your cool and don't be a jerk back at him because your friend is currently defending her man. Just wait for a year or so.
Enjoy!
2006-08-04 06:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by The All-Knowing Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do want more from your friend than you'll admit to,or are too over-protective of your friend and he's just picking up those signals.She picked him so she should deal with him.You don't want to lose her as a friend.
2006-08-04 06:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by kents411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to beat the shi* out of a guy because he objects to you telling his wife you love her, and HE'S the one whose insecure?
Get help, buddy.
2006-08-04 06:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to realize that she needs someone better and her husband needs to stop being so jealous and get a job.
2006-08-04 06:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by *Benny B* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grammar is so bad in his questiuon that I cannot make heads nor tails of the question...
2006-08-04 06:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to DUMP HIM - he sounds like a creep. Unfortunately you don't sound much better.
2006-08-04 06:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋