I'm watching a documentary that states most argues/discussions a couple have, are mainly because of the his/hers family, specially because of each others mother-in-laws. It's you against their family.
Is this true? What do you think?
2006-08-04 05:53:45 · 17 answers · asked by Mary7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no i like my inlaws and he likes his
2006-08-04 05:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people should learn to keep out from others' problems and let that couple work it out. Trust God and listen to him what to do in all situation. Some people are bless with good in-laws and good families than others are not. Hey no one can choose their family out what family you get is what you have for your whole lifetime. We need to learn to forgive each other, to love with unconditional love and to work things out instead of taking the coward's way out by divorce. Never let the fear of stiking out stop you from playing the game. Don't be a coward or a quiter and don't go to the bat ONCE in the game. It means that don't ever give up on anything or anyone !! HOPE !!!
2006-08-11 06:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by June H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when people first start out many problems can be caused or be flamed by in-laws. However, everyone has to remember that it is two people in the relationship and not the rest of the family, nib it in the bud. For two years I listened to my mother-in-law and she caused problems in my relationship by putting ideas into my husband's head, why does she do that and why doesn't she do this instead. Well I had enough and told her off and we didn't speak for a year or so, but now she doesn't tell me any unwanted advice and she doesn't butt into our lives. She is involved in our lives, but she respects the way I live and the way I raise my children. Now my sister-in-law she still butts into their lives and tells her what to do with her kids, but she never confronted her about it so I guess she doesn't realize that there is a problem. So all in all it is about communication.
2006-08-04 13:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Young Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While completely intoxicated, my mother-in-law actually told a friend of mine that she wished her son had met my friend first. She ruined my surprise birthday party (thrown by her son) when she yelled loudly to my cousin that my cousin was a c*nt. She and my husband shared many secrets and engaged in private phone calls. She would come to our town (an hour away) and arrange to see her son at his work place (he owned a bar;she's fond of booze) but would not stop at our home to see her grandchildren. Recently, she broke down crying because her boys don't love her as much as she loves them. She cried that they're too busy loving their wives (what a crime!) Well, this must have made sense to my soon-to-be-ex because last week he left our home, moved into an apartment owned by his mother and began working for her company. She is not to blame for all of our marital problems, but I do feel she has used bribery and guilt to lure her son into a new life. While I miss him and love him, I hope the two of them will be very happy together.
2006-08-04 13:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by ophelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
conflicts can be blown out of proportion when the families get involved, but the 2 people in the marriage have to stay focused on their relationship and on each other. Do the best you can to be polite to the in-laws but don't tell everyone your private business...that's when the real trouble starts.
2006-08-11 22:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that ,yes the families can become very nosy when it comes to your relationship/marriage! But it is mainly the couples fault! Because if they have mild problems then they should keep their problems to them selves or go to counseling then the family would have no reason to say anything or get involved! But if there is extreme problems in the situation then I would be Thankful that I had my Family there for me!
2006-08-11 08:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My in law hate me and try to set traps and now my husband is going to move them next door to us.Its good for him but I know how they feel about me and my little boy.I don't like them because they live one big lie.The father in law is married to two women and acts like the 2nd women it just a friend,They always go out and have dinner and tell people and let people assume they are married.and my husband is so numb to it ,because he's been around their crap since he was born.He told me that he remember holding onto his Dads leg when he was about 5 and saying don't go stay here.He was with this women 8 yrs when this happened I told my husband how could this be so ,then that means he fooled around on your Momma.bcoz they had a kid before during and after.Sick twisted Preacher man is how I think of his Dad.
2006-08-12 12:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its true. I argue with my man all the time cause his mom bothers to much. I could never be in peace with her around. Why? because she always wants to be up in our business. she treats my man as if he were a little kid and it bothers me. she comes down all the time to see if he's well feed if his clothes are clean if the house is clean. calls every hour to see if hes okay. and his father ahh calls every time when he needs to go somewhere calls my man to pick him up drop him off then calls him when hes already tired and want to go home so he can go pick him up. They act like ur not the right one for thier son or daughter. and i really think the should butt out of ones life and live there own.
2006-08-11 22:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by kina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but my parents had problems with extendewd families.
I would say that much conflict, in politics, families or anywhere for that matter is due to people having their noses in other peoples business.
eg. Mothers in law, the abortion debate, religion, world politics.
2006-08-11 03:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it...It is more than problem in my marriage....I feel that if you are married in-laws should not be interfering period...The married couple should not put them in the marriage or discuss your problems with your inlaws...Marriage is private and you shouldn't let people into your marriage...Marriage is very sacared and when the two of you don't agree on issues such as family....there could be hell to pay.....
2006-08-04 13:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by "gg" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it, my husband and I have only been married for 10 months and the only thing that we argue about is his parents visiting all the time. EVERY three weeks they stay the night at our APARTMENT. We have asked them to stop and they don't. Just read an email that his mom sent to someone (then forwarded it to me after it went back and forth) It states that she is going to be staying at our apartment the week of our one year anniversary. HMMMMMM she never asked us if that was ok.
Anyways you can see i completely believe that it is true.
2006-08-04 12:59:49 · answer #11 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋