My friend is going to be having a baby with her boyfriend, they are an older couple and are trying to decide if they should hyphenat the last name using both of theirs or just using his last name since they dont have plans for marriage at the moment?
2006-08-04 05:23:06 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I would just use the fathers name. Where I live...if I had given my son my name...and my boyfriend and I got married (boyfriend is the baby's father) In order ofr me to change my sons last name...my boyfriend would have to adopt his own son. Stupid I know!!
2006-08-04 06:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the same debate when I had my child. I'm the last male in my line so we decided that if the child was a male he would have my last name, if the baby ended up being female she would get the mother's last name. Chances are that if it's a female she's not going to have the last name forever, whereas a male will. So my son has my last name and his mother's last name is his middle name. If I had had a daughter it would be reversed.
2006-08-04 05:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by timhda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the father signs papers at the time of the child's birth declaring paternity, the child would legally have the mother's last name. If he does sign the papers, then I second the motion that the child be given the mother's last name as a middle name and the father's name as a last name.
2006-08-04 05:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it should be named after the father. I know someone I used to work with, who named her son after the father of her baby, (which is also her ex-boyfriend), first and last name. It should be in agreement with both your friend and her boyfriend on which name it should be. As for hyphenation, I couldn't see why not. But mainly it should be his.
2006-08-04 05:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who gave her first baby the surname of the father, then he skipped out on her three years later, and she had to go theough legal proceedings to have it changed.
With her second child, she just gave the baby her own surname to avoid the process the second time around.
Her issue was with the fact that her kids would have different surnames than she does, and she's worried about that.
I think it's just a matter of personal preference, but given the circumstances, and depending on the current dynamics of their relationship I think it's probably not a bad idea to hyphenate the name.
2006-08-04 05:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by TakeMe2YourLeader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would use the mothers last name as the child's middle name with no hyphen.Or I would give the child the selected first and middle names, then both last names without the hyphen.
2006-08-04 05:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend doesnt mind about it? Because usually he would want the baby to carry on his last name? I think its a good idea to hypenate the last name, BUT does this effect them any how? If they arent planning on getting married, I think the hyphenation will be good because the baby belongs to both parents.
2006-08-04 05:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Monica. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use the fathers last name, That way, when the child grows up and had children on its own, it can pass on the name. If they were married that is how it would be in the first place, why change what would be.
2006-08-04 05:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if they wernt prepared for marriage y did they have a baby??? i think that in that case, whoever is going to be having the child if seperation occurs, then say the mother takes the baby, the baby should have the mothers last name, if the father takes the baby the baby should aquire the fathers last name
2006-08-04 05:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by DeZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just use the father's name, since when people hyphenate the name, 1 name usually gst dropped. Maybe use the mom's last name as the middle name.
2006-08-04 05:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋