I have been married for almost 5 years. All of his friends are female. Convieniently, I have met only one of them. He always makes his phone calls on his cell phone when he leaves. I am constanlty being hung up on when I answer the phone. Are these sure signs of cheating or I am I just being paranoid?
2006-08-04 05:17:34 · 33 answers · asked by Freshet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
.... we also have 2 kids together
2006-08-04 05:32:25 · update #1
Hi! This is the hardest situation and I really feel for you. It's difficult because you probably feel like you're going crazy not knowing whether he's cheating or if you're being paranoid. Additionally, you don't want to confront him because you don't want to appear oversensitive, jealous or possessive. I've found, having been in this situation myself, that you just have to trust yourself. and your instincts. So many times I was convinced by my ex's that they weren't cheating, even though I knew in my heart they were. If you are here, asking these questions, there a strong possibility he is cheating. You know him better then anyone, and you must trust yourself and your feelings about the situation. Don't let him blind you to what you know deep down is going on. Be honest with yourself and him, because there is a chance he won't admit it even if you were to confront him. Best thing to do? Walk away.
2006-08-04 05:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Truthfully I can understand how you are feeling.. because out of all of this you have 2 children who you want to give a stable life, I can say that if you don't feel so well about it then talk about it calmly.. but one thing I was just told from a good friend is "if you are not ready to open the window to see then don't" cause if you see something that is going to hurt you then what will be your next move? cause if you are honestly just going to scoop it under a carpet then why go thru all of that. Open the window if honestly you are prepared completely to make that decision if it is that.. and have a plan for you and your kids, they need for you to be stable. I hope u understand what I'm saying. What sucks is that the children suffer regardless which way it goes.. And honestly I am so sorry I have been there and going thru it as we speak with kids too. And never ever go by what people say always think what you want.
2006-08-04 06:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are definitely signs of cheating. You should tell him your concerns. Tell him why you feel the way you do and explain to him that if he's NOT cheating, he really shouldn't act so shady!! But if it continues or he gives you some line about how he needs his privacy, that is just complete b.s. and is almost always a sure sign. He agreed to share his life with you, and the fact that you only know one of his friends is not okay.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 06:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating you. You have been married with him for 5 years and it sounds, as if he is still keeping the way open. Either you tell him how you feel and that you are starting to question his attitude to your marriage. You have the right to know, why he is acting like this. If he is not able to give you an explanation about his behaviour you should shut the door in his face. Then you are waisting your time.
2006-08-04 05:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Maxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot.... if the number ain't block call um back. An do you have any guy friends? If so how does your husband feel about that or does he get jealous? If so then let him know why it's alright for him to have female friends but it's not alright for you to have guy friends? An see what he says. I know how you feel I've been through the same thing with my husband but things are better now an even though he wasn't cheating I always think that he might of if I haven't talk to him about it.
2006-08-04 05:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by leihuaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't cheating yet he is probably close. Sign up with your cell phone company for online paying or managing your account and you can monitor his calls and text without him knowing. this could give you a heads up, but don't accuse until you have hard evidence, some fires are hard to put out once you light them. Good luck
2006-08-04 05:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by tryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. Are you happily married? Is he? Having women friends is not a bad thing, however, having them call and hang up on you is. Why not have a BBQ and invite them all over to meet them. Knowing them personally will give you a better chance to evaluate the situation as you watch how they interact with your husband. Or you could just do what every other women would....call him on it and demand an explanation for such behavior.
2006-08-04 05:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he's cheating and it's sad but you have to take action and don't be scared! Don't let him think he has you fooled stick up for yourself and prove him wrong. Even if this has to end in divorce, so be it, if it means you're happy that's more important than anything including him!
Try to contact that show cheaters because they might make the process a bit easier! Good luck girl!
2006-08-04 05:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Brittney M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask to meet his friends, if you've been married 5 years he should have no reason to hide. If he refuses that's when I'd get concerned. I know all my husbands friends and he knows all mine. The phone hanging up doesn't necesarily mean anything...we get prank calls and telemarketers all the time.
2006-08-04 05:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely cheating. Hire a PI
2006-08-04 05:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋