how do you get babys to stop crying?

Question

im a single father with no experience
she won't eat, won't sleep and won't shut up......

shes 5 months old and shes CONSTANTLY crying

went doctors and nothings wrong with her

she won't let me sleeeeeeeep.......................

Answer 1

Do you know ANYONE who could come over and care for the baby and let you catch up on your sleep? The world is a whole lot nicer when you are not sleep deprived.
As for the baby, I would be sure the doctor checked her for reflux if she won't eat. Other than that maybe her formula isn't right for her or she is just caught up in the tension.
You might check your phone book for sitters for hire to temporarily give you a moment to recover.

Answer 2

My daughter would cry all the time as an infant as well. I did not know what to do!!!! I tried everything and nothing helped. There's so much new research out there now. Where's Mom? Babies respond to mom's voice and smell when stressed. Also to human faces. So if you have a picture of Mom or any other faces, particularly smiling faces show them to Baby. Also whatever calms you when you're stressed should work for baby. I'm a little worried that you chose to word it, "won't shut up" ! You sound very stressed. This is probably rubbing off on Baby and making her even more agitated. She Will Not calm down if you're not. Babies sense our emotions even prenatally. Try calming yourself First. Then work on the little one. Music, reading, anything that will relax both of you. Also swaddling indian style. You get a warm blanket or something of mom's (sorry if this is upsetting you but babies respond overwhelming well to scent) and wrap Baby girl up. This actually provides a sense of security. Also, she's quite possibly responding to something you are feeding her when she does eat. There's research out there that certain foods cause colic. Try switching foods/formula. I wish you so much luck. I feel you'll get through this just fine. You've done the most important thing...Ask for help. If you're spiritual: Pray!!!

Answer 3

First off you have a hand full and no mom wants to be in your position. I hope you find peace soon, the crying could drive you up a wall. Your baby is too young to tell you what hurts. I would make a list and go down the list of things that makes you uncomfortable such as lack of food, gas, pain, diaper change, heat (need a bath), or restless, sleepy etc. One thing this baby may be feeling your anxiety and that will make her cry more. Take her for a long drive put on some soothing CD and relax with her. If this does not work seek out medical attention. Most babies love to cuddle and feel love. Give all the love you got.

Answer 4

ok ,first of all you need to learn to relax! A baby can sense your frustration which in return puts added anxiety on them. When my son had really bad colic I tried a few tricks and I found them very useful. Try sitting in a calming place in your house. Dim the lights and turn on some low classical music. Preferably sit in a rocking chair and hold her close to your body wrapping her in a light weight blanket rather snug. This works great for both feeding and trying to get her to sleep. If you are absolutely at your wits end, don't give up! Call someone to watch her so you can just get away. You do not want to do anything out of anxiety to harm your child. This doesn't mean you are a bad parent, just remember to relax and take deep breaths. Monitor when the crying starts. Is it after she eats? It could be gas pains. Try some mylicon drops that will relieve the pain. Maybe it is the formula, the iron could be what is causing it, I know alot of mothers that have had to switch because of the exact same problem. Good luck!

Answer 5

well I have 5 children age 10 moths to 12 years!
She may be colicky or just over stimulated! Have you tried taking her for a ride in the car? That will work for lots of kids! Also try rocking her , or making it very quite if that doesn't work, try more noise! It is really just a guessing game with kids, the best way to learn is from experience or someone with experience! Have you tried just putting her in her baby and leaving her in the quiet? Maybe she just wants some alone time?

If you can't find anything that works, you should try the doctor, she could have a serious problem that you can't see, but chances are, you just haven't figured it out yet! If you have any more questions or what to ask for more help just let me know:[e-mail]

I hope this helps and God bless!

Answer 6

She may have colic. In which case, don't expect too much sleep until she settles down. She could even be teething.

Try some soothing music, rocking her, singing a silly song, lay her down on an activity map or in her jumpy chair. One thing that worked with my second son who had colic - but he only got it sparingly because I don't believe in pacifiers - is that if she doesn't currently use a pacifier, give it to her ONLY when she starts to fuss. Once she falls asleep or you can distract her enough to get out of her mouth and she doesn't object, take it out!

Be aware that what works once or twice may not work the next time; you may have to keep trying different things.

Put her up against your shoulder and hold her feet together. If she starts to "climb" or "crawl" up your shoulder, she's got a belly ache. Push her legs up under her and just rock her slowly, patting her back. It should soothe her.

Remember she's a baby and she can't help herself. Try to ask someone else to watch her for a few hours so you can get some sleep.

Good luck :)

Answer 7

If she is not eating there might be a problem. Check the soft spot on her head-if it is raised or indented she is ill and needs a doctor. It could just be colic which is very painful for babies. Try a warm bath and a gentle massage of her tummy. Put her in the car with the radio on a quiet music station and drive her round till she falls asleep. Take her for a walk-fresh air might help. Whatever you do DON'T let it get to you-leave her crying if you have to and have 5 minutes to yourself to catch your breath. It does get easier -she will sleep eventually. Best of luck-ask again if none of this helps and don't despair!

Answer 8

try everything that seems sensible that everyone else has done.

The only thing I didn't see was putting the baby across your lap and ~ gently ~ bouncing your knees up and down.
This is great for gas. Alternating over your shoulder and across your knees.

If she continues to be difficult take her back to the doctor and have her checked for reflux.

This is what a lot of colic has turned out to be. Some doctors may miss this.

If she is not eating it very well could be reflux. Eating causes, backup into esophagus, causes pain.

My youngest had it and it's a pain, for both the parent and baby.
Mine threw up a lot but other babies may not. It may not be as obvious.
The good thing is there is medicine for it.

Answer 9

Okay wet diapers, tight clothes, pacifire not the right shape, Hungry. Many different things.
Always feed your little one, if they dont seem to sleep as long as they should and seem to be hungry, give them baby cerial(baby oatmeal is good too) It will keep them full for a few hours.
My little one can only have a bulb(round) pacifire, she didnt ever like the ones with the flat spot.
I am sorry you cannot sleep.
Mild night light will also help soothe them, sometimes softly talking will too, as hard as it is.
Also i heard on doctor phill if you hush "shhhhushhhhhhushhhhh" kinda loud right in there ear it reminds them of the womb heartbeat and will calm them. I tried it wil my child and only worked up untill she was about 7 months old.

Answer 10

Well for a start heres me email address [e-mail]. Mother of 4, foster Mum to 2 and got 2 foster grandchildren (I was a child bride honest !!!!!!) Obviously you have checked the usual, NAPPY etc. Get a baby sling and carry her around with you whilst doing your jobs (obviously NOT around the cooker, but you would know that anyway), I did this with one of mine who was very fretful (dont forget she had a damn hard time being born) CUDDLE HER LOADS make her feel secure, take a chill pill. Eating wise, dont worry too much, the most important is fluids so she doesnt dehydrate, from there on its trial and error really, avoid processed baby foods, give her what you are eating, liquidise it. She has probabley smelt your food and wants that instead of tinned & jar stuff, yeah they convenient especially when going out BUT I never held with them at all, found my kids preferred eating my stuff.......Good luck AND well done for being a SINGLE DAD XXXXXXXXX email me anytime ya like will get back to you a.s.a.p.