He and my son have been invited there this weekened without me?? How can I get through to him that this is not normal and that this is not going to happen all the time?
2006-08-04 05:16:26 · 7 answers · asked by fungirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you can get through to him by not allowing your son to go. Does he really not understand that it isn't normal???! I think that you should explain to him that when he married you, his parents moved to the category "relatives and extended family" and his immediate family became YOU. You and your son!
Has his family been rude or mean to you before? Has he ever talked to them about it?
I know that with my husband I told him that by not defending me to his parents, he was hurting me as well as showing them that it's okay to be mean. He needs to tell them that when they disrespect you they are disrespecting him, and disrespecting your son.
Good luck with it. I hope he understands!
2006-08-04 06:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... this is a tough one. Family Feud, here you come! What's going on w/the family and you? How long has this been for? Have you talked to him, and if so, what does he say? Remind him that your son is his seed, but he's also your seed. You're his wife, and he should always PROTECT you, even from his vicious family... apparently they are not thinking about your husband's emotional well-being or your son's well-being either. It makes me furious.... Talk to him. Be positive and tell him that you love him. Remind him that you have a union that NO MAN shall ever come between. Also, don't let yourself become an obstacle in this situation. This is something that he needs to handle w/your full support. Pray about it before you speak w/him and Pray about it if he's gonna talk to them about this. It's his choice in the end..... I hope you can overcome this.
2006-08-04 12:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by LOVEDBYGOD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband will not defend you against his family, you do not have a marriage. You have a "living arrangement" that is doomed to failure. A man's very first obligation is to his wife and to NO ONE else-- not even family. When you and he were married, you became part of the family whether they like it or not. If he goes without you, your marriage is a sham and a lie.
2006-08-04 12:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by christopher s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get him to do anything for you. Either he respects you completely and protects you against his family or you should explain him that the situation is not acceptable for you and especially for your son. What shall your son think off that?
He has not a spark of decency.
2006-08-04 13:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Maxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF and aparantly thats a BIG IF he loves you and is any kind of a man at all he'll do it on his own!
2006-08-04 12:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...whatta jerk. If he loves and respects you, he'll want you to be there.
2006-08-04 12:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by So_Wat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-04 12:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋