i have a hard time excepting comments or compliments... i may have some self esteem issues or something... does anyone have any ideas of how to accept compliments without feeling like you don't deserve them?
2006-08-04 05:07:28 · 5 answers · asked by sevy_chan 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
It has taken me 20 years to learn to accept a compliment graciously and truly believe that I'm deserving of whatever's tossed my way.
What made me realize my worth?
I wish I could tell you!
Know this: We are made in the image of God our Father... refusing to accept a compliment is like slapping Him in the face... it's like telling Him, "I don't think you did a very good job with me. Your work is not worth looking at, listening to...." (Whatever the compliment may be.)
These are my own personal beliefs, and I realize not all people will agree... but You asked for our ideas, so I gave you mine.
Good luck finding your self-esteem... it's a long road for some, but SO worth it when you get there.
2006-08-04 05:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by TakeMe2YourLeader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's it, you got the spelling correct at the end (accept). Except means not included (I want all those cookies, except one).
You accept compliments by saying "thank you". It doesn't matter so much if you think you deserve them or not, because the person giving them does. You may disagree, but it's their way of saying how they feel...so smile and go with it. If you feel differently, that's fine...but don't argue or disagree with them because the compliment is about their point of view or opinion (at that moment), not yours.
2006-08-04 12:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think of how you would want ppl to ACCEPT (not except) your compliments. Imagine how their various responses might make you feel.
It can be hard to accept comments or compliments- esp if you have self-esteem issues OR if the person who is saying those things has sketchy motivations for complimenting you (ie is trying to get a date, etc...)
If you feel that a compliment is genuine, one way to handle it is to just say, "Thanks" or "Well, that was nice of you to say". And try to avoid adding on things like, "...even though I disagree", etc.
Cheers :)
2006-08-04 12:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Gryphon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say thank you and continue to do what ever it is that got you the compliment in the first place. this will help build character and self esteem.
2006-08-04 12:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, its accepting, not excepting, but you got it right the third time you said it!
All you have to do is smile and say thank you.
2006-08-04 12:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋