Now I want to know what to do? Give him his divorce? because I want security a house at least a roof over my head... What do I do? We have no kids does that still entitle me to anything. I donlt want a divorce though I want to work things out. His reason for getting a divorce 'irreconcible differences'
2006-08-04 05:03:36 · 12 answers · asked by babie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call and make an appointment with your own attorney. Do not let yourself be screwed over by him and his attorney.
2006-08-04 05:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have legitimate concerns but dont go off the deep end. A lot depends on what state you are in, and a myriad of factors. I would get to the bank and secure $$$. You have a right to anything in the joint account and can secure money in your name. Get some professional advice. An attoryney will typically want $5,000 to "start" there are a number of other directions to pursue before you put out the big $$. This can include paralegals and certified divorce specialists to get things going. The start of everything is 50%. This can change and without a whole variety of details, it would be tough to advise properly. Be careful about advise from friends and relatives. Their support, although well intended, is limited and may not be in your best interest.
2006-08-04 06:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by timbother@pacbell.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, Phuck him and let him go. Don't place your security in a man. You work right? Then you can take care of yourself.
That was inconsiderate to call someone at work to tell them they want a divorce. Don't put up with it. When i got home i would pack all my shiznits and move out, give him the divorce and find another man.
And if he's not willing to discuss it that shows how mature he is. A man will only do what we, as women, will put up with. You really want to be married to someone that can't even communicate what the problems are? What if you DID have kids right now and he pulled this crap? How difficult would that be?
Count it as a blessing girlfriend and move on no matter how painful. The heart heals. Emotional scars take much longer.
Diva
2006-08-04 05:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief girl. Don't you see you're being played? He calls you at work to drop the bombshell, so he can terminate the conversation any time he wants, knowing you'll fret all day long... The cowardice of not facing you aside, that's both manipulative and cruel. He's hurting you because he can; and don't kid yourself, he did it on purpose.
He may want the divorce, he may not. What he wants is for you to react to his behavior; good or bad, preferrably bad. He's looking for fear, hurt, anger... anything to show he got to you. I guarantee this is not the first time he's done something like this, nor will it be the last.
You think you're in love with a player, and "working things out" will mean being his toy till you're no longer any fun. Don't "give" him a divorce. Take one from him, along with everything a good attorney can get for you.
2006-08-04 05:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Irreconcilible differences is one of the few reasons why a person can request a divorce. It's a cheap way of saying, I don't wanna try anymore. I suggest you don't give him anything and start seeking legal advice. Call up the family court, and ask if they have resources for you so that you can be prepared for the divorce papers whenever he decides to give them to you. You're entitled to NOT sign them. :) Also, why do you need him to provide the roof over your head???? One thing you need to do now is to realize yourself as a woman. It's always easier to have the other person provide our necessities, but you should really not take anything from him, unless you're planning to flip it and make a profit. :)
2006-08-04 05:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by LOVEDBYGOD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to get him to go to counseling but if he really wants to divorce you then you don't have a choice in the matter. And having security and a roof over your head is no reason to stay married.
2006-08-04 05:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you this again.... Open the Yellow Pages and get and attorney NOW! Once his attorney contacts you tell him that you want your spouse to pay for your legal fees.
That way you can get legal advise of what are you entitled to and what you are not. You are entitled to 50% of marital property, real state, furnishings etc.
If you want security i would suggest that you get a job. Good luck
2006-08-04 05:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him that try to work things out. If not get your *** in gear and get an attorney. Try to settle things on a happy note. It's better to be safe then sorry !
2006-08-04 05:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over, cover your ***. Get to an attorney and don't even talk to him. If you don't you'll be sorry, he'll twist your words in court and really screw you. Make sure you get an attorney.
2006-08-04 05:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will still get at least 40 percent of everything if not 50 or 60 percent.
2006-08-04 05:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋