I'm not much of a daydreamer, but my thoughts have been turning to a person I had a thing for many years ago (almost a decade ago), yet only while I sleep. I am married now but these dreams do get to me. Non sexual too. Nothing happened back then and I do regret that a little, but my point is I do not spend time thinking about it. I would think nothing of it, but the person has turned up more frequenly in my dreams lately. Marriage is fine, life is fine, so why the subconscious obsession? I don't think I am a sleep whore, nor do I think my life sucks. Has this every happened to you? What does it all mean to me?
2006-08-04 05:01:52 · 6 answers · asked by mightymax 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you understand that "motifs" occur in dreams, then you should understand that the dream itself is "coded" in meaning. Nothing in the dream is "literal".
Hard to imagine that our dreams are coded messages from ourselves to ourselves. I suggest you write down the dream immediately from waking and then try to de-code the meaning.
Cheers
2006-08-04 11:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Monk 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If it is not causing any problems in your waking life, it's probably safe to ignore it. Fantasies aren't necessarily harmful.
As to why, while I'm currently rethinking my former devotion to Carl Jung, but he does have a theory that seems pertinent. One of the stages of growth in heterosexual males under his model is meeing with the Anima, the feminine aspects of your personality that got cast off as you grew up. Your dreams may simply be playing out your interaction with her.
Why would they appear as your crush rather than your wife? Perhaps the emotional energy of the crush and the regret, even as little as it is, provided the spark that allowed those aspects to come together into a dream-character, so they appear in her image. Again, this isn't necessarily adulterous, and as long as things go fine in your life, your better off letting the interaction play out than trying to interfere.
2006-08-04 12:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by yarvin2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you should know dreams are dreams. They are subconscious mind of yours, and they are projection of your mind.
Things you see from your dream do not necessarily mean the actual thing. In your case, motif/people are recurring in your dreams could mean something else. They may symbolize your need.
If you dream of a person who wants to get to you for so long, that person you project could mean "Satisfaction", "desire", "Comparison", etc. Maybe you are not content with something, subconciously you put that person there in your dream to show that you are actually looking for something.
Again, dreams can be tricky sometimes, but there are reasons because they are from your mind!
2006-08-04 12:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have too much to add to the discussion below, but to put it a little more simply, this person probably stands for some quality that is now important to you. It may be a new desire that is seeking fulfillment. It probably has little or nothing to do with sex or with your marriage.
2006-08-04 13:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Austin W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To see people you know in your dream, signifies qualities and feelings of those people that you desire for yourself.
To see people from your past in your dream, refers to your shadow and other unacknowledged aspects of yourself. It can represent a waking situation that is bringing out similar feelings as your past relationships.
2006-08-04 12:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that something about your relationship with this previous person is missing from your relationship with your wife? Or, maybe just something in your life that was different when this person was in your life and that you are missing now?
2006-08-04 14:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋