2006-08-04 05:01:49 · 25 answers · asked by tmittch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dont contact her. Sounds harsh, but if you do, it will piss her off. Lay low, try and get on with daily life, but dont contact her. Constant contact from an ex is going to make her really turn against you, nothing more anoying than being hounded by an ex.
Leave it for a few weeks (hard I know) then maybe write her a letter saying how you feel.
Dont come across as possessive or angry, tell her you still love her, and would like to see her to talk things over.
If she doesnt respond, you need to move on.
I know you feel awful at the moment, probably that your world has ended and you will never find another, well it hasnt and you will. It takes time mate, my friends wife left him for another woman, he was utterly devastated, but 2 years on he has remarried and has a baby. You never know whats around the corner, life is full of surprises, so mourn while you need to, but not for too long, try contact in a couple of weeks, but be prepared for the worst, then if she doesnt want to know, you can start moving on.
Make sure you keep in contact with your mates, they will understand what its like, you need your friends now, so make sure you go out even if you really dont feel like it, it can help.
I hope you get sorted soon either way, take care.
xxxx
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2016-05-18 07:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately breaking up is hard to do and any contact with her will not make it any easier. Time is the only thing that will help you get over being dumped.
Having gone through this myself a couple of times I know what its like to watch TV or a movie and have something come on the screen every 10 minutes that reminds you of her. I know how hard it is to go places and do things without thinking that you heard her voice or you thought you saw her when it was someone that looked like her.
Go out and find new friends and re-establish contact with those who you lost contact with in the past. And for the sake of your own sanity, DO NOT discuss the fact that you are miserable about being dumped. Just go on with life. Find new hobbies and interests to get into. Do not let this situation prevent you from progressing in life.
2006-08-04 05:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 17:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously anyone who have been through your situation will understand what you are going through. The Most important thing of all is to pick yourself up , move on and keep yourself busy. Taking up a new hobby, go out with friends, have a new sports or do something that's doesnt remind anything of her. Always remember time will always do the healing and time will make you meet someone new and soon it's all over. Take care of yourself and dont ever let that depression ruin you and your time ^_^ Good Luck.
2006-08-04 05:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Hotlips_G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did when my 6 year realationship was over. The first night I ate a huge bowl of ice cream. Then the next day I got a new outfit and went dancing. You won't feel in the partying mood but it will help. If not then work out. Get some exercise, just go for a walk. Meditating also help you stay calm. It will be hard no matter what you do. Cry then get over it. You know? Someone is ment for you just not here. Those who make you cry aren't worth your tears, the ones who are worth your tears would never make you cry.
2006-08-04 05:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about why she dumped you. Did you do something wrong? Why won't she have contact with you? Try to remember that if you are not meant to be together, then there is someone better out there for you.
Mate, maybe you made a mistake? Maybe you didn't. But you have to get out there. Meet someone new. Don't rush into anything but find new people to take your mind off her. Don't let yourself have to much time to think about her.
Keep busy.
Good luck :)
2006-08-04 09:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Joshurawr™ is SAFE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to hear this, but sometimes you just can't beat the pain that follows a break up.....for a while.
If you cared about her, of course its gonna hurt.
Probably best thing is to keep yourself busy. Do something, anything, to occupy your mind.
It's when your alone, especially at night, that the pain really sets in. I understand that, but if you can just make it through the nights, you will be on your way to getting on with your life.
Time will pass soon enough, give yourself a break and accept that these things happen to most of us...and yet we live.
You'll be fine.....good luck.
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2016-05-15 21:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to everyone! If this is the first time, it may not be the last.
Hurts like hell and feels as if you'll never get over it. Can't eat, can't sleep, and you don't feel like going on.
Time heals. There will be a time when you are with someone else, or just having a great time. Then you'll be glad that your alive and you won't give your ex a second thought!
2006-08-04 05:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Copper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter, email, voicemail message
something where even though you are not talking one on one she knows how you feel. try to do something sweet to win her back if you really feel she is the one and you love her.
If nothing works...it will take a lot of time and the pain and sadness wont go away for a while but try dating again...after a few dates or a million...depends but you will eventually find another person for you to love
2006-08-04 05:05:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋