my mother has stopped me from seeing my 4 year old son because she and I had gotten in a fight a month ago and this is her way of getting at me, I have done nothing to my son this is strictly between me and her. For the record they forced me to let them adopt him a couple of years ago. every since then i have done nothing but what they have asked and i feel like they are toying with me. they said if i get my life on track i can have him back . . .and i have, they are just finding any excuse to keep me out of his life and i don't understand why, now i want to take action. they spank him and lock him in his room, i am tired of them treating him like they did me!
2006-08-04 04:58:49 · 14 answers · asked by HaydensMommy 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I know it's wrong but the way i see it what do i have to lose, i don't get to see him now . . at least we can be together, he doesn't want to be with them, and just like with me i had no marks so i couldn't turn them in, but the emotional marks they have left on me were tremendous, i can't just sit down and let them hurt him too.
2006-08-04 05:13:09 · update #1
If they adopted the child, he is not your son anymore. Your parents are now his legal parents, and you are his sister.
If you kidnap him, they can call the police and report it since they have the legal right to decide who he may go with.
2006-08-04 07:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the record, if your parents - or anyone else for that matter - has adopted your son, he is no longer your son. You have no legal rights or responsibilities. Guardianship is another matter, and I am hoping that is what your parents have over your son. Get an attorney. Seriously. If you were to take your son, you can bet the police will get involved, and it is not a joking matter. You won't have any visitation at all sitting in a jail cell. Good Luck!
2006-08-04 05:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you have to lose? Everything! You'll go to prison, and he'll go back to your parents. Since you consented to the adoption, you no longer have any parental rights or responsibilities.
Your best bet is to consult with an attorney. Kidnapping will only guarantee that you'll never see your son again. You need legal help, not a jail cell.
2006-08-04 05:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you kidnap him and they catch you, you will never see him again. You will go to prison, and lose all visitation right to him. You don't want to do that. I would talk to a lawyer about what rights you have.. and what you can do. Possibly call social services and they can have a counselor talk to him. Emotional scars leave a trace as well. We all know that. If it's there someone will find it. Don't take the chance of being cut out of his life all together.
2006-08-04 07:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you forced into letting them adopt? Where is the child's father? What caused your life to get off track, and are you really back on track now?
Every time I see a story like yours, I see a whole bunch of questions being left unanswered.
2006-08-04 05:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like lots of issues here. If you do feel your son is being mistreated, talk to your attorney.
If you kidnap him, you will be arrested, put in jail, have a record which could affect your ability to get a good job, and possibly lose any visitation rights you currently have.
2006-08-04 05:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kidnap him.
Then when you get out of prison in 5 or 10 years you can tell him how you screwed up both of your lives.
Get a lawyer go to court, beg and plead with his guardians, do whatever you must do to stay in his life even if it means not seeing him for a while, but DO NOT kidnap him, doing that will do neither of you any good.
2006-08-04 05:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by mike53153 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you will end up in a courtroom. If you kidnap your son it will be as a criminal, in which case you can kiss your chances of ever getting you son back goodbye. Or you can go the legal route and see if you can have custody changed in someway. If your parents are mistreating him, report them to child protection services.
2006-08-04 05:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a good lawyer to get custody of your child back. If you kidnap you will get caught, never get custody and likely go to jail. The only circumstance I would ever consider kidnapping my child is if the person or people who had custody of him were abusing him and he was in grave physical danger. A spanking is not really grave physical danger.
2006-08-04 05:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry you are having such a bad time it must be very frustrating however you need to consider some things do you have a safe warm environment for your son to live in ,can you provide for him and do you really want to risk losing all access to your child by kidnapping him?
I think you should contact the authorities and speak about your concerns with them good luck :)
2006-08-04 05:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋