during intercourse with my partner i arouse her but she does not secrete enough fluid for lubrication need aid

Question

ACTUALY I AM MARRIED AND WANT TO ENJOY REAL SEX WITH MY WIFE.SHE DRIES UP SO FAST EVEN IF I AROUSE HER DURING FORE PLAY, BUT SEEMINGLY SOMETIMES HER VAGINA REMAINS DRY LEADING ME TO USE SALIVA TO LUBRICATE HER.OTHER TIMES I GET HURT BECAUSE OF FRICTION DURING THE ACT AND THIS HAS MADE ME TO FEAR HAVING SEX WITH HER OFTEN.I WANT TO KEEP MY MARRIAGE AND BE FAITHFUL TO HER. HAVE BOUGHT A BOOK THE ACT OF MARRIAGE AND READ IT TO GET TIPS,BUT ALL IN VAIN.DOES THIS PROBLEM HAS A CURE ?PLIZ I NEED YUOR HELP AND WORD OF COUNSEL.

Answer 1

This is not an uncommon problem. The best I can tell you is get some additional lubrication. As others have posted, KY is ok, but it does get sticky after a little while. I don't know your staying power, but I have found with my wife, and at different times of the month she produces varying amounts of lubrication, that JO H2O personal lubricant is AWSOME. It runs about the same amount as KY, but takes very little of it to make things nice and slickery. We have not found it outside of our local adam & eve, but I am sure there is somewhere online to order it from. I hope this helps.


Just my 2 cents worth.

Answer 2

There are special lubricants on the market for this purpose. You can get them at drugstores, or mail order if it is too embarrassing to purchase them in person. If your wife is under the age of 45, you may want to seek out a doctor's counsel. It could be hormones (after age 45 a woman's sex drive may increase, but her "parts" don't always work the way she wants them too). It could be she needs to check her potassium and sodium levels to make sure she does not suffer from a form of diabetes which can lead to dehydration. She may have a chronic problem with the mucus membranes in her body (in a woman the membranes in the nose are related to those in the vagina - which is why a pregnant woman sounds like she is talking through her nose ).

It may help if you can excite your wife to orgasm before you enter her, that way more fluid is released.

Answer 3

You are looking at this all wrong. You need to go to an adult store and purchase a lubricate to help you during sex. They work very well. Ask for a lubricate that can also be used for anal sex also as this works alot better. Do Not buy K-Y jelly this tends to gum up during sex. And it also drys up quickly and disappers quick. A good source is Lovers Lane, they don't make you feel weird or anything. And believe me this is a common problem, its not you.
I can safely say all women have this problem at one time or another, expecially during or around that time of the month.

Answer 4

You may think what your doing is right which I'm sure it is but sometimes when my bf gets me really wet is when I'm really into it. I honestly think it has to do with the way your moving. Not necessary that's wrong; a women needs a little more then fore play. I want to suggest for you to caress her body...give her a massage....a few drinks...tell her how great she looks...go downtown on her first...tease her with your man hood...use your finger first to penetrate her. Use some or all of this next time and see what happens. I know from experience that it doesn't always happen is just when she's not all into it. I enjoy my time with my bf but he doesn't always get it to the point where I'm all wet. But when he does uuuulalalalala!

Answer 5

OK. KY will work. If this is what you want to try then try the warm sensations one. Its great. But I would start with foreplay. I hate to say this but maybe your doing it wrong partner. My gf gets me real wet by eating the S*** out my P****. She fingers me at the same time too. This works like magic. But even if that doesnt work the jelly always will. Good LUck and hope this is solved soon cuz I know it sux to not be able to f***

Answer 6

USE A WATER BASED LUBRICANT, ITS FABULOUS, PROBLEM SOLVED, DO U BRING HER TO ORGASM 1ST, IF SO, SHE WOULD BE LUBRICATED NATURALLY.
THIS FRICTION WOULD BE TERRIBLY UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOUR WIFE ALSO.
WHAT DOES BEING FAITHFUL HAVE TO DO WITH ANY OF THIS, THAT SHOULDNT EVEN B AN ISSUE.
SEX NEEDS TO BE SOMETHING THAT BOTH OF U ARE WANTING AT THAT PARTICULAR TIME.
DO U ENGAGE IN ORAL SEX FOR HER?
IF SO DO IT EVER SO GENTLY, WHILST AT THE SAME TIME MASSAGING HER NIPPLES, THIS WILL SEND HER NUTS, (I HOPE) IT TAKES SOME CO ORDINATION, BUT IN THE END IT WILL B WORTH IT. DONT TRY SHOVING YOUR FINGERS INSIDE HER JUST CONCENTRATE ON YOUR TONGUE AND HER P***Y. LONG SLOW LICKS, NOT JUST OVER THE CLI*ORIS, OVER THE OPENING OF HER PU**Y ASWELL.
SLOW AND GENTLE WINS THE RACE UNTIL SHE SAYS OTHERWISE.
THIS IS SURE TO WORK.
NOT A POINTED TONGUE FLICKING OVER HER CLI*ORIS, THAT CAN HURT.
GOODLUCK, LET ME KNOW IF IT WORKED?.

Answer 7

This is a common problem and there is nothing wrong with her. It could be caused by several reasons.
She may dehydrate easily. This could be one reason. Another reason is that she may have too much "noise" going on that gets in the way of thinking about sex. What I mean by that is the noise of all of the responsibilities and obligations, the feelings associated with them, and maybe even some doubt or pain......all of this may be zooming around in her head at once, like when you can't find the radio station because of bad reception and several frequencies try to come through at once. Noise can be quite distracting during sex. It can interfere with anyone's sexual performance. In guys, it's called ED.....
Best advice, take your time. Talk to her, I mean talk dirty in a really graphic way. Not raunchy, but tell her all that you want to do to her, and how you love her reactions......this will get her focused on the feelings.
Speaking of which, sexual arousal starts in the mind. Could there be reoccurring thoughts that are blocking her sex-thinking? Does she still feel desired by you? Does she have doubts about her body? Are there hidden resentments? Hurt feelings? Do you look at porn? (If you do, it may be really hurting her feelings and making her feel undesirable). Maybe you two should explore this....
Take your time. Women are like convection ovens, and need time to clear our heads; and as we age, it sometimes takes longer for our bodies to start "reacting" to our thoughts...
a lot of this starts long before we even get to the bedroom. "Mental foreplay" goes on during the day, during dinner, and long before thoughts of sex. It's different for guys, I know. Guys are like microwave ovens. But sometimes noise can cause a disfunction, too.
Do you two ever set aside time to have candle-lit dinner at home (sans cell phones, kids, tv)? Do you still go out on dates? Do you still try to seduce each other? If not, you should. write each other long, graphic stories (never finish, just cut it off with "your turn" and let your partner add the next part). Just writing about it is pretty sexy and takes focus.
A hot shower or bath with a glass of wine is both relaxing and eases any fear about personal hygiene or body odor. A nice massage with lotion is relaxing, and while you talk dirty to her she can start to focus on sex with you. Touch her most sensitive parts with your tongue. Tease her but don't torment her.
It basically comes down to the fact that she is not ready for penetration. Take your time with her and help her feel sexy and get her mind into it. This is fixable. It just takes some understanding.

Answer 8

dude, she says she's aroused, but look for real signs of arousel: Increase in breast size
Vaginal lubrication
Vasocongestion of the vaginal walls
Clitoral tumescence and erection
More visible venous patterns across the breasts
Elevation of the uterus and stretching of the vagina
Change in shape, color and size of the labia majora and labia minora. If she tells you she's hot and her cooch feels like sand paper then you're not rubbing her right.

Answer 9

The problem is probably hormonal. She needs to talk to her Dr. Until then there are many good products on the market to use, such as Astroglide.

Answer 10

With the dryness problemm, the best solution is a synthetic lube. KY is the easiest to find. You can get it at almost any pharmacy or drug store.