My husband is very emotionally distant. Last night we were having a typical argument about sex.
He is never in the mood. We have only been married about 2 months. Then he really hurt my feelings. I was crying in the other room. He just got up and closed the door to our bedroom without even checking on me. I am very hurt by this and I thought it was really mean. What should I do?
2006-08-04 04:57:57 · 15 answers · asked by Courtney T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, we're young. He's 21 and I'm 23. We've been together 3 years, he does not have any medical conditions regarding sex.
2006-08-04 05:07:58 · update #1
I back checked on some of your previous questions. You never know when gamesmanship is afoot.
That said:
You seriously need to talk to him about how you are feeling. Marriage eventually settles into a routine that can be boring or tedious, but not after a few months. That to me is a giant red flag.
I recommend you talk to him about it and suggest counselling. But before you talk to him, you need to get yourself ready for the possibility of dissolving your marriage, because if this is his behavior now I don't see it getting better. You should not be unhappy in your marriage. DO NOT decide it is okay for someone to treat you badly. Better to solve this now, one way or the other than to live in misery.
It's easy for those of us not in your situation to give advice, doing it is the hard part... I wish you good luck.
2006-08-04 05:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Robb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Typical Male ya ask me'lol'!!!!!No i am just kidding i am sure there are some sensitive men out there who gives a damn when there wives or girlfriends feelings are hurt but there are some that don't worry at all when we have our feelings hurt and we are feeling down like your husband and mine!!!!!I can really symphatize with you because i go trough the same thing every day with my boyfriend!!!!!!I am very weak hearted and my feelings get hurt very easily i am sitting there bawling my eyes out and he would say thing like don't worry about it or stop crying don't be so foolish or would just get up and leave without saying anything!!!!!!I just wish he could hug me and comfort me and talk things through with me instead of turning his back on me!!!!!!I don't know why some men are like this i just guess they are cold hearted and senseless and they expect us just to grin and bear it but i am sure if the shoe was on the other foot they would kick up a big stink about it!!!!!!
2006-08-04 05:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Baybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two have some very serious problems to deal with early on in this marriage. I think this really calls for marriage counseling since you have only been married a short time.
2006-08-04 05:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May he is not in the mood cause he has someone else on the side. But remember "all women are God's most precious gift to this world" so matter what your husband says, always stand proud and never be ashamed, you are beautiful and smart. Good luck babe.
2006-08-04 05:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh-uh... something is wrong as this is not typical of newlyweds...are there any physical conditions that might cause this problem? Diabetes and obesity are two illnesses that can affect your libido. Are you an elderly couple? With no more etails that is all that I can guess...good luck.
2006-08-04 05:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like that before you married Him? If so why did you?Try to work it ouit ask him maybe he is embarrassed about something sex wise or maybe he is just an insensitive jerk if it is the latter Better deal him rite away!!!!
2006-08-04 05:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him ...he is just a jerk and immature and will not grow up over nite...You are better off without him in your life
2006-08-04 05:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say ,,you made a big mistake in marring him ,,i would get out now before you get hurt real bad
2006-08-04 05:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he he doesn't care to listen to your needs and wants then You need to leave. You need to be with someone who will love you and care about what you want and need.
2006-08-04 05:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO MANY OF THESE PEOPLE ON HERE KEEP SAYING, GET A DIVORCE. LEAVE HIM. WELL GUESS WHAT? THEY ARE DIVORCED AND YOU ARE NOT! GO GET COUNSELING/HELP. YOU ARE NEWLY WEDS. GROW UP AND WORK IT OUT. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK.
2006-08-04 05:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋