I could share "time" with my husband all the time. He says he would be more attractive if I lost more weight. I am 5'9 and a size 10. We first met when I was 15 and dated for a couple of years then lost track of each other. I came back in the picture 20 years latter and he still thinks of me as the little size 2 I once was. I will never look the way I used to but am happy with how I look now. Why can't he be?
2006-08-04 04:45:50 · 10 answers · asked by monkey f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound just fine for your height if you are balanced proportionally.....unless you are a little 'hip heavy'.
I think your hubby needs to get real, and realize you can't stay a Barbie doll forever. It simply defies nature.
He sounds a bit superficial, and the problem is his, not yours, but unfortunately it effects you.
He's just being a typical man....not fair, but you shouldn't starve yourself just to please him. If he loves you, he'll look past the aging we all go through, and just be glad he has you in his life.
And if he doesn't.....then he set himself up to lose someone who's beauty is more than just skin deep.
Good Luck
2006-08-04 05:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by JC 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No. My wife was a size 10 when we met. After we got married and had 2 kids together she wnt to a size 18 I still had sex with her because i loved her and because if it wasn't for me she ma y still have been a size 10. Right before she died though she was at a size 12. By the way tell him if he loves you then except you for what size you are. I sure would.
2006-08-04 04:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be the same size 20 years later. I was a 7 now a 14 my husband has never told me I gained a lot of weight, in fact he used to get angry with me when I told him I was fat, he actually says my mid area is from him after I had children his gift. does he look the same as when you met him, how would he feel if you told him he was fat. My weight or my husbands has never affected our sex life.
2006-08-04 06:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by tryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is really the reason, well, the man's a louse. A size 10 is normal and attractive!!
I dated a guy once that told me that. When I dug a little deeper, though, he was having problems with himself. He ended up on anti-depressants. He finally admitted to me, that while he loved me like a sister, he was never really attracted to me. He had just given up on finding "the one". We are still friends, and he did find the one, and so did I. Sometimes people decide being with anyone is better than being alone. If I were you, I'd check further!
2006-08-04 05:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by jenn_a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is shallow. A size 10 isn't fat by any means. Tell him he needs to get over it. I am sure he has changed some over the last 20 years as well. Maybe you need to give him some of his own medicine and see how he likes it.
2006-08-04 04:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is crap he has a problem not you !does he look the same 20 years later ? i doubt it ! his time is not worth it" true love " does not change when weight changes and love always makes the sex , someone who is 5'9 and a size 10 is not overweight !
2006-08-04 04:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by susi98223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Size 10 should not be considered any where near fat.?
What about him? He hasn't changed at all? Doesn't sound right?
2006-08-04 05:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Red Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's the one with the problem, and not you. If you're happy and healthy, then you shouldn't have to change for him.
I'm sure he doens't look the way he did back in the day, either.
2006-08-04 05:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have all his hair, and still the same size. Does he have more ear hair. If h does tell him that you love him still no matter how long his ear hair is or that you can see your refection in his head. My wife gained 30 pounds I still love her, sex is still great. If she looses weight or stay, i still love her, she is sexy and confidient. Plus her boobs are HUGE!!!
2006-08-04 05:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by i love my sexy hubby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be selfish. Loose some weight or at least attempt to. He should appreciate the effort.
2006-08-04 04:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by peteypablo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋