How soon is too soon to have sex with someone?

Answer 1

You as a person should decide whats allowed and whats not allowed when you decide to enter into a relationship. Some people jump into sex right away and some don't. Personally I say wait until marriage. There's just way too many people out there already that just sleeps around. Deciding to have sex with someone is huge, no matter what other people will say. Before actually deciding to have sex with someone you need to know that person's sexual history so you know you're not at risk for contacting any disease, you both need to decide who's going to use protection and then what will happen if you get pregnant, because protection is not 100% guaranteed. There are lots of other issues such as your emotional state and physical capabilties. Too soon is when you're unsure and have doubts. If you decide to have sex, be sure and know that afterward there will be no regrets because I've heard too many stories where people have regrets. Good luck.

Answer 2

5 or 6

Answer 3

If you owned up to any self-respect then you wouldn't be asking that question.
There are many things to take into consideration when thinking about having sex with someone, such as have you thought about protection and where does your partner stand on that issue? Some guys will tell you that the condom limits the physical sensation but that is no reason to give in to unprotected sex because should you decide, fine, you could get sexually transmittted diseases or even become pregnant.
Do your research on STD's and see how attractive sex is after that. Check out Chlamydia, HIV/AIDS, Gonnerhia, Syphillis and Herpes just to name a few. Remeber that in cases such as Herpes you could also catch the virus from oral sex.
You must be ready to commit to this action and be sure that you are doing it for the right reasons, not HIS reasons.

Answer 4

You should AT LEAST wait until you know that he really cares about you. Having sex with someone too soon can doom the relationship.
If a guy is pressuring you to have sex, that's probably all he wants.
The right guy for you will wait, and it's up to you to wait for the right guy until then.
Don't believe the stuff about casual sex = free independant woman. The fact is some guys could stick their finger in different light sockets ALL day long and never think twice about the last one... Women have an emotional attatchment to their bodies and never forget the last one.

Answer 5

Don't judge when you have sex by measures of time. Most of that comes from religious and cultural beliefs ingrained since birth.

Some people i have screwed the hell out of on the first day and remained with for eight years.

Others i just wanted to get off, and quick.

How do you feel about this person? What do you know about their past sexual history?

Are they pressuring you and keep asking you for it - Because a man that really respects and digs you will NOT ask you for it at all. He will wait until you are ready.

Case in point. The man I am dating now knew me for about a year before we even had a discussion of sex. He dated others and so did I. We maintained our friendship during this time. One day he says I've been wanting you for the past year but I do not want to have sex unless you think I am worthy of it.

Whatever you do, please use a condom. You have no clue what his past sexual history is. And don't EVER believe the statements " I'm clean, or the condom does not feel good". Last year, MILLIONS of new AIDS cases, do you know who had the highest percentage? WOMEN. Be safe if you choose to have sex and do it because YOU want to, not because someone wants you to.

Diva

Answer 6

well normally people say oh dear I have to wait three dates before I can have sex with anyone... that tends to be the usual "soon"... but you know what... if the timing is right on the first date... GO FOR IT!!! There are too many reasons that having sex on the first date is a good idea... it really lets you know your partner... but then again... it could also be bad... just remember... NO GLOVE NO LOVE

Answer 7

Before you really know them and are sure it is the right thing for you to be doing. This kind of knowledge comes with age and maturity.

Here is how I think about it:
Do I want to potentially have a child with this person?
Do I want to be connected to this person forever through a child?
Would I be willing to introduce this person to my family?
Could I spend the rest of my life with this person?

If I can't answer yes to all without a doubt, I won't even consider it. These questions don't say you HAVE to, just that you should be willing to...

Also, I don't think young teens should be having sex, because these questions are not something they can get into their mindset. IMHO

Answer 8

Before you're mature enough to understand what sex means and what else it could lead to and then be prepared to suffer any consequences because of it....btw, legal age of consent in most states is 16, however, 18 or older is the better choice

Answer 9

I would have to say before six months. I didn't start having any kind of sex with my boyfriend till we were six months. It all depends on you and the guy your with. It depends on if there is actually love there not lust. Take Care


P.S. Its probably safer to wait till your engaged that way your already getting married so if you get pregnant like me, your already planning a life together.

Answer 10

ditto. people play with sex too easily nowadays. the 'beauty' of it has been lost in the shuffle of this thing called life.

what's the rush? chill - get to know each other and enjoy the journey.

if you have to ask - how soon is too soon....

then it might be too soon.