How can I keep my self happy , Im 20 and I just worry to much and need to relax cause Im beginning to reach?

Question

to the point , of being depressed,

When I started college god I was really happy

But now , Im happy but not that happy I mean even having all the down side that they might be in my life , how do I fight it, I fight had the engergy to fight , now I feel so completely low

My mum shouts at me for no reason , always getting angry , I phoned up a care line to help me with ,

I feel like being so strong , but I feel theres this huge weight on me , that even If my mum shouts quite badly, I become ever so low,

I mean thing s didnt work that well for me at my job, I was having pressure and these things to sort out

But why , why am I weak , why cant I be strong , what wrong with me I want to be happy

I feel no one likes me , I feel ruein ,

I really do

Answer 1

Chill out n enjoy the ride...

Smoke some pot! Get Drunk live life your 20 ffs!!!

Answer 2

You are feeling low because you have one person shouting negatives at you and no one telling you that you're great, you can do it, etc.

One of the reasons you enjoy college is because you accomplish something and actually get credit and praise for it. Too bad home life isn't like that.

If you have the means to do it, you should consider moving out. You would probably get along alot better with your mother if you were not living at home. If you don't have the funds to get an apt, is there a family member or friend you could room with? Your an adult, your mother has no say over if you stay or go.

Once you get out of the house and working or back in school, you will feel so much better.
If you don't already work, look for at least a part time job, alot of employers will work around a college class schedule.
Once you get to feeling more independent I think you will find that you are in a much better emotional state.

Answer 3

Happiness is not a state of being. It is an experience meant to be felt. Like sunshine and rain, war and peace, love and hate, it has an opposite. It sounds trite but you will feel better. Some of us are just natural worriers. I also believe that the more intelligent you are the more you worry. Read Ecclesiatses, for what you are feeling is as old as Time itself. Move, travel, explore different things. Change your surroundings. Don't let someone else completely dictate your life. By the way, old people generally have more regrets about what they didn't do than what they did do.

Answer 4

Hi there! Iam not really your professional help but i just want to tell you what works for me...

If you get depressed, just think of how lucky you are that you were able to graduate, you have a job , you're healthy , you can see , all those blessings that you have!

The bottomline is be PROactive NOT reactive. Because you can not control what other people would do, what they would say, if they will like you or not... surround yourself with people/friends/family who really care about you and discard those who pull you down. Do what you think is good for you and do what is RIGHT. Life is a MIRROR the people around you will reflect what you are showing them, that's being PROactive. Let yourself lead and the others will follow. If you do good, if you appreciate yourself other will do good too (well NOt all...) and others will appreciate you as well..

lastly , it's about faith, I dont know your religion, but be active in your religion. There are things thats beyond our control and let the HIGHER power take over.

About your mom, somthing might be bothering her or like what I said maybe she's just a reflection of what you are showing, try talking to her, moms open up easily, you might be able to help her...

try to be active in your community or office so you'll have less time being depressed...

Answer 5

Find yourself a psychiatrist / psychologist / therapist of some sort, or at the very least, someone you can confide in. You may be clinically depressed, and those people can help you with that - to where you don't feel so horrid.

You also may have to learn how to tune your mum out - she may have some issues she's having problems with as well, and uses you as a convenient outlet to release her frustration. I know it's really hard, but try not to take it personally.

Pressure will always be around, no matter what job you're at. You just have to learn how to manage it, and that's something that comes with experience and patience.

You're not weak - you're looking for help. :)

Things will be okay, it just may take some time. Best wishes are heading your way.

Answer 6

You have two choices. You can continue down this path of feeling sorry for yourself or you can start on a new path and raise yourself up to your potential. Everyone has a bad day, but it isn't good to let the day turn in to weeks and months.

You have to make yourself do things and try things. Sounds more like you're bored with the same old things.

People are attracted to smiles. If you smile and change the negative to some sort of positive you'll see a big difference in people around you. Laughter is contagious.

Answer 7

happiness is not a destination it's a journey.we all have to go thru emotional turmoil before we have serenity. Believe more deeply. hold youf face up to the light, even though for the moment u do not see. this is called pain and progress. all u need to do is keep believing in God's grace. keep ur faith in his hands, pray for his strenght to get u through those rough days. believe me i've been there and back. my faith in my higher power carries me daily. we can't change the ways of others only change how we deal with them. don't let anyone drag u down with their harsh words an actions. u will only find the happiness u are looking for when u letgo and let God. we can only do this on a 24 hours at a time. put this in God's hand and just get out of the way. let him do his will not ur own. remember that someone do love u . i'll be a friend if u want me to be email me at [e-mail].

Answer 8

I went through this and was actually diagnosed with depression. I do realize this is not the case for everyone who gets down, though. Some things I had to "learn" that medicine didn't do for me was that I have to put myself first. In the end.. you have yourself to count on. If you don't defend yourself, who will? People around you are only human too. Why is your mom shouting at you? What is it about your job you don't like? You asked why you are weak...you aren't weak.. you just have to start caring for yourself. Once you start sticking up for yourself, it gets a lot easier. It also sounds like you are stuck inbetween being a teenager and being an adult.. it's scary to grow up and take care of yourself, but things work themself out.

Answer 9

First you need to stop been so lacking in confidence and be a lot more positive about things, at college do they have a course called Personal Effectiveness, its a really good course to go on and only usually takes a minimal amount of your time up so can be fit into other things your doing on your course, its a self help course for been more in tune with your life and really helps build up positive and is very good.
Can you just talk to you mam and ask her to please stop shouting at you all the time because its not good for her or you, at the age you are you shouldn't be shouted at by her or anyone else, talk calmly to your mom about this and don't get angry.
Sometimes we all have off days and times in our life when we get fed up, but you just have to pick yourself up and dust yourself down and start all over again, good luck and think positive.

Answer 10

its very easy in life to get to a point where you try so hard to do everything right, but as i say you can please some of the people some of the time, but not all the people all of the time,you need to take a step back learn to respect yourself again, and not be so harsh on yourself if sometimes you dont do as well as you might have done, your only human,ive had times when ive felt christ is it all worth it, then i look at my husband and kids and say yes fater losing my parents to cancer 3 years ago nearly within 3 months of each other, ive learnt to accept whats thrown at you and get onwith it, i have people who hate me for what ever reason they choose ive never done them any harm, i have a 18 yr old daughter who thinks shes better than anyone else and lives with mother in law as you allways wound me up, i never see her now, yeah it hurts, but it there loss,half the time when people dont like you is because there jelious of you for what ever reason.

youhave alot on your shoulders at the mo with colledge, its hard work and your mums probably tired from dfoing stuff during the day she doesnt mean it, get out abit more and do stuff you enjoy doing once youve done homework or what ever make time for you abit more away from the home, but dont let your work suffer, otherwise your just make matters worse.

speak to a doctor abouts your worries they can help and wont judge you ok.


you take care
jen.

Answer 11

u need to take a holiday ! and on that holiday u need to relax......so get yourself some meditation music, some spa soaps and creams and pamper yourself, light incense and soak yourself in a bubble bath, call up ppl u havent spoken in a while, reconnect , u could hear of some great news , u could meet up with friends and have a good time , make a decision that u are going to forget whatever has happened earlier and u're going to make a fresh start. start slowly....i know it may not seem as easy as written here......but a start in the right direction will light up the way .wish u all the best. tc .