I am married and my home town is 2 hours away and when I go back home I ALWAYS go out to the bars with my...?

Question

friends, I feel like my husband dosen't like me doing that. I have NEVER cheated on him, should I feel guilty about going out with my girl friends?

I always ask him to come out with me but he only really likes to go to the bars with his friends.... we have talked about it several times!

Answer 1

ur guilty

Answer 2

Well, in a marriage a lot of compromise has to take place, but it of course needs to be reasonable on both ends.

Bare this in mind and have a serious talk with your husband. You need to reach some middle-ground here. I am sure if he was doing something within his rights (just as you are), but it was something you highly disapproved of, as your husband you'd want him to listen to reason, just as he deserves you to listen to his reasoning.

Also, I think that once you are married it is time to let go of the past, and move forward with your new life with your husband.... In other words working towards a future with the person you vowed to be with until death do you part, not going out to bars 2 hours away from your home! When I say home, I mean the home you share with your husband!

Answer 3

Going home takes you back emotionally to a place you were before you got married; a place where you were not saddled by a husband and a marriage.

Even though you may love your hubby, you sometimes miss that freedom of younger days. This is probably why you feel guilty.

If you don't do it too often (i.e. to the point where hubby seriously feels left out and resentful), go for it and have a good time.

As long as you keep in mind this is fantasy, not reality, the release is good not only for you, but also for your marriage.

Answer 4

No you shouldn't feel bad about going out and having a good time with your friends. So many men are insecure and To me I think it is because they are doing something wrong. Not necessarily saying that your husband is. I know for a fact that every time my husband wants to call out something that I want to do or if I want to go out with my friends he always has some kind of objection only because he has probably done something or thinking about doing something. I used to ignore this but i just became more aware. No one can actually be that jealous. He is just very inconsiderate. It's not like you get to see your hometown friends everyday. He shouldn't have a problem with you going out and having a good time.

Answer 5

You should only feel guilty if you are doing something wrong. Cheating is not just sleeping with someone, at least not in my opinion. Why don't you just ask if it bothers him and talk about it. If you both get your feeling out in the open you would both feel alot better in the long run.

Answer 6

No you shouldn't feel guilty because you've got the rights to meet whoever you want, whereever you want and whenever you want! He's got to understand that you are a human and you've got a life which consists of your husband, family AND friends. Going out with girlfriends doesn't mean you're gonna cheat on your husband. If he objects raise his example and tell him off, 'when you go out with your friends to the pub do I assume you're cheating on me when you're just going to watch football' or wahtever.
Dude although he is your husband he cannot control who you're meeting hence meeting your girlfriends shouldnt make you feel guilty unless you're doing something wrong.

Answer 7

Well... this is a sticky situation. Put yourself in his shoes. Does he go out all the time with his friends? I've been in this situation many times. I go out with my girls to drink and have a good time, not to chase men. Yes, I understand all they're out for is some p*ssy but that's does NOT mean I'm going home to anyone else but my man! I think it depends on the situation. If you're leaving him home alone every time and he never gets to go out - then yes, you should feel guilty.

Answer 8

Not at all. Relationships of any kind always need some time apart to just be themselfs and not be "us" for awhile.

If u were to do everything with ur hubby u might end u getting bored or intolerant toward him. So keep on being yourself and having a good time with ur girlfriends, just don't cheat or any other action in that area.

Answer 9

Since you are married I don't think neither of you should be going out to bars,It will end in a divorce,jealousy is human nature.
But if he goes out with his friends without you then there isn't any difference in you doing the same without him.I wish you could do things to gather instead of different things.Man and wife teams are the going thing now days.but my wife never had any interest in what i was doing except playing and singing gospel music,other than that she didn't even want me shopping with her,but i wish she could have went fishing and 4xwheeling with me,other couples did and they seem to have so much fun being to gather.but if you don't like being with each other what are you doing togather?

Answer 10

You know time doing separate things is good sometimes for each of you.. but dont get lost in the moment with temptation. And try hard to set aside one day to have a date night.. where both of you can talk about what you did when you went out with your friends. Fill in the blanks & he wont be curious.

Answer 11

If he goes out to bars with his friends without you why should you feel guilty about doing the same thing? Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.