2006-08-04 04:26:26 · 9 answers · asked by Mr. Hendricks 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Put the barrell of the rifle right under their chin and push it hard:
you stare into their eyes and get real close...you whisper
"do you forgive me, well do you"...
And then you shout
"DO YOU FORGIVE ME"
again again...
hahahahahahhahahahahhahahahahahahahahhaha
(they learn to forgive quickly: teaching them to
forget this little episode is whole different ball
park game thing though)
2006-08-04 04:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that the past is gone. If they have any problems with a person, it should be over what is currently going on between them, not over something they did in the past. They may not trust someone because of something done in the past, but that's different from not forgiving.
Not forgiving hurts all involved. It's like trying to force a treaty by dropping more bombs than the other side, except the bombs are just firecrackers, so all they do is make them even more mad.
Explain that they can be angry about what the other person did without being angry at that person. No human being has the capability of fairly judging themself or another as a person (good or bad), and it can only hurt to do so by either inflating someone's ego or making them feel worthless. It's not easy, but try to stop judging people by refocusing your judgement on their actions.
Explain that whatever the other person did, while it was bad, there is no universal maxim that they *must not* do it. After all, they did! It is very disappointing, unfortunate, or even deplorable that they did it, but it is hardly the end of the world.
2006-08-04 05:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by yarvin2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not forgiving is too much baggage. You'll feel better if you let it go and move on. Leave the past where it belongs and move on to the future. There's nothing you can gain from not forgiving.
2006-08-04 08:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by tyrone b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't actually teach forgiveness. You have to show and people have to learn from experience. There is no class for that.
But to learn, you just have to low down your selfishness, self-esteeem. Then forgive others will be easier. However, many times, we just can't let go our stupid pride.
2006-08-04 04:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to teach by example. I frequently borrow a quote from Mary J. Blige referring to mistakes made by her mother in the past... "I blame her for nothing. I forgive her for everything." I presume that if I want to be forgiven for my mistakes, I have to forgive the mistakes of others. However, I also believe that we have to learn from our mistakes. So I also find myself saying "What did we learn from this?" quite frequently. *smile* Good luck to you!
2006-08-04 05:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person must be willing to forgive THEMSELVES before external forgiveness is possible.
Start there.
2006-08-04 04:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach them how to let go of the past and any pain they may be carrying with them in the present.
2006-08-04 04:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait unyil that person makes a mistake...then show him/her that nobodies perfect but if we all learn to forgive it is a two way happiness we create,the person that forgives gets a good feeling by giving someone else another chance,...and the person who is forgiven thanks god.tell that person that god forgives and forgets,...and so we must forgive and forget in order to get closer to god
2006-08-04 04:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by doc. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very hard. But it's possible I guess you show them that unforgiveness will only hurt them and make them miss out on the bond they could have had with that person and besides,past is past.
2006-08-04 04:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋