so i have a friend who is basically controling me, and i would hate to be rude to her because she is my friend, but now everytime i go to sleep i have a dream of her controling my every move what i say how i walk and talk too!!!!
so is this a sign, i'm i supposed to do something about this? please help me!!!!
i'll give 10 points for the best help
2006-08-04 04:25:06 · 29 answers · asked by Taylor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
More details are needed, but I'll work with I got. OK, if you're friend is making you do stuff you don't wanna do and is controlling everything about you-don't be afraid to tell her to stop. I know it's hard, I used to have a friend like your's too. Don't make the mistake I did, where I allowed my friend to control how I dressed, how i acted and who I could hang out with.
The best way to draw the line to your friend, is to sit her down and tell her what's going on, how you feel and what you want to be done about it. If she gets all mad about it and doesn't seem to understand, tell her again and if that doesn't work just get up and leave. You don't need friends like her. Don't let people take advantage of you, it's wrong and just ain't right.
2006-08-04 04:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 5⤊ 5⤋
Well all I can say is that shes not a friend. Tell her how you feel about her controlling your every move. Maybe thats why your having those dreams. And if she says shes not your friend anymore, well those people just use you! Oh and you should stop thinking about her in your dreams. Your dreams are the things you think about. STOP think of her while you still can!
2006-08-04 11:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you aren't very comfortable with her trying to take you over and say that It's really bothering me more than you think. She probably keeps doing this becuase you have kept your mouth shut this whole time and didn't say a thing so she keeps doing what she does best controling people and your her target you have to speak up and make a move or she will keep on controling you! ***Good Luck hope this advice helps!!!***
2006-08-04 11:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ [þæ] ツ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LoL, what if i tell you what to do. I'd be controlling you too.
I would start making a decision or 2 to get some control back. You can always say no. This does not sound like a good friendship.
2006-08-04 11:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by lupering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is not a friend if she is controllling you. I had a friend like this once in high school. We were best friends in grade school but when we entered high school she started telling how to dress and stuff at first I thought it was cool and than like you i started having dreams about her controlling every thind I did. I started out by avoiding her phone calls, letters, and than eventually I started talkign to other girls in school. If she would tell that what i was wearing wasnt good enough i would simply say Yea i know, but this is what i wanted to wear. Or if she tried to tell that i was goign to have hamburger for lunch i would tell her Yyou know actually a salad sounds better. About two weeks she finally got the message that she was not in controll over me, i was in control over me. Ane we had a long talk about why i was doing it to her. I told her that I was my owe person and i can do for myself, i dont ahve to have "friend" to tell me i have parents for that. Ttill this day we are still best friends and now she comes to me for advice on things.
2006-08-04 11:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by tammy3873 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds so bossy and controlling you and even in dreams..so rude!maybe its time for you to move far from her..if u dont like to be controlled why not tell her! but me i have that problem before i just stay away from her. Shes not a good friend anyway..
2006-08-04 11:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by mabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's no wonder she wants to be your friend if she's able to control you...
It really sounds like she's just using you. I'd suggest first telling her that you don't want to be controlled and do your own thing, and... stop letting her control you. If she threatens you, flips out, and leaves... well, uh, I'd have to say that'd be a good thing, that you'd be able to get rid of them. That's not truly being a friend at all. If she accepts it and tries to stop, and still wants to talk to you and be around you, then stay friends, and try to work on respecting each other.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck...
2006-08-04 11:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by arcmdark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you going to go with her to the mall and you have a dream to conutie and you don't want to be rude but I have to take sometime to conutie my dream and on the weekend I will hook out with you will that be ok and if she say no just tell her you can not spend time with her if she don't stop trying to controling you ok I'am out I hope I help you and I hope she understand
2006-08-04 11:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by lil boosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're dreaming about it makes me think that your sub-conscious is telling your conscious that it's time to deal with it. I would sit down with her and be totally honest. Start out by telling her that her friendship means alot to you but that you are your own person and do not appreciate her constant "advice". Tell her that in the future, if you want her advice, you'll ask for it.
2006-08-04 11:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by Annie's World 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like some Freddy Kruger type stuff! You need to stick up for yourself and put her in her place. You are a good person and should not have to deal with someone else telling you your every move.
2006-08-04 11:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋