im bisexual how to find a bf?

Question

im bisexual and i want to find a bf but i dont want people to know just yet so what traits do i look for in a guy to tell if he is gay or bi besides the way he talks or dances

Answer 1

You mean you have chosen to be sinful on all levels----not just one? Well, I guess then a boyfriend isn't what you're looking for. I believe a goat or a dog would better suit your needs. They're not sure what sex they are either.

Answer 2

It's hard to say really where to go because in essence it's like finding a girlfriend. Believe me I'm pretty much in the same situation. But to pick up on "traits" takes time if such a thing is even possible. I'd say as difficult as it is to do is to talk to a guy you find attractive and see where the conversation goes and by then you can get an idea where his oreintation is. Plus it depends where you are. If you're at a gay bar or club then it's more than likely a guy you're looking at is either bi or gay. If you're at a regular club and depending on the type of music or atmosphere the chances are far less likely.

There are websites and personals. Which are another means at least giving it a chance wouldn't hurt. Just like anything you have to be careful about it but seeing how the ad is written will give an impression of what the guy wants. Some of it is just wanting sex and those ads are good for a laugh although I wouldn't eating while viewing those due to some of the pics being shown.

But basically it all boils down to getting out there and making attempts. While it's easy to know what to do, it's difficult to put into practice unless you've got the confidence to do so and of course depending on what you're looking for.

Good luck on this, it's good to know yet another person in a similar situation is out there trying to get an idea as to who they are. Hopefully it'll lead to something at somepoint in time.

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After looking into your other questions and geting a better idea of your situation I will admit being 14 and in this situation is more difficult than if you were over 18. Seeing how that is the case, the best place to start would be to come across organizations for people like yourself in your age range. I know such things exists but I can't really say anything about it because I didn't come to realizewho I was until I was older and able to have access to these other sources.

Answer 3

Firstly there are no traits you can look for to determine if someone is gay or bisexual.

Secondly you first need to come to terms with your own sexuality and be comfortable with yourself before even trying to get involved in a relationship. It can be quite burdensome for someone who is out to have to deal with the pressures of being back in the closet because his/her partner is not comfortable with their sexuality. The alternative is you find a boyfriend who is also still in the closet. But that will be like trying to find a needle in a gaystack.

I suggest joining special interest groups, or clubs that are for GLBT. Make some gay/bi friends and go out to see what the scene has to offer. If you're brave enough to try going on-line (you've made it this far) then try Gaydar.com or gay.com, but anything you find there will most likely be unfulfilling as these sites although branded dating sites are more about sex than anything else. But maybe that's what you need; a good rotten shag, several I should imagine.

Get out enjoy life and stop looking for a bf, it will happen when the time is right.

Answer 4

Go to gay oriented places. A how about a coffee shop or something like that? Go to a gay bar. Or a bar that is gay friendly. Put an ad in your local craigslist under an anoymous email. Do you live in a community with a gay lesbian center? If so definately check it out. There are youth groups, father support groups, coming out groups, bingo nights, karaoke nights...

If you do meet a guy in public and arn't sure:
A lot of the ways guys pick up each other is eye contact. Does he return your gaze? Does he express interest in you? Go up and talk to him if he is not already initiating a conversation with you.

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Whoa now! I didn't realize you were 14! Actually I would caution against putting an ad in something like craigslist. You need some more life experience first. There are a lot of creepy old men that will say anything to try and sleep with you. If you do this - insist on pictures. Insist on meeting in a public place at first.

Also - by all means educate your self on safe sex! Actually If I were you I'd wait a few years. But if you are going to do it - by all means - no matter what he says - no oral or anal sex with out a condom! Aids happens! It kills! If your parents can afford the meds - that is $500 a month they will be spending just to keep you alive. How would you like to come out to them and then aks them for $500 a month? And even then you will have side affects. And aside from aids there are a host of other sexually transmitted diseases you can get. So - again - no anal - and no oral sex - with out a condom! The receiving man is the most vulnerable!

See if you can get a hold of some gay magazines. Read the advocate. It is not a porno mag - it is about mainstream gay life. And you would be surprized - alot of public libraries have it! Also - if you do get to a gay establishment - by all means look at the free literature! Places usually have free gay publications and things like that near the door. They give listings of all the gay events going on your area.

Answer 5

Man, I am bi too. Just because a guy dresses a certain way or dances a certain way means nothing. The honest truth when it comes to finding a b/f is sticking with your instinct. You have had those moments where you just know a guy would be bi/gay. Well that is the case 10/10 times. Dont look for gay antics, just look for the small things. Usually outgoing, usually very conscious about looks, usually shaves *** and butt, usually very good looking, will actually stare you in the eye when he talks (homos) are known for that. Good Luck.

Answer 6

People who are discreet as yourself generally use a dating website, a party line or go to an upscale club for like minded people. You can never assume that a person is of any sexuality by a walk, talk or dance. You could be way off.

As for the post by pesky wabbit, living your life as God made you is never sinful, it is a sin to impose hateful thinking on others, you talk out of your hind end. It is okay to be gay, bi, straight- you have no choice in the matter how you are is genetic not a moral choice. People need to leave others alone, it doesn't concern you who anyone sleeps with. the only time god is in my bedroom, is when i pray, and he doesn't care who I sleep with. As long as your a good person, that is all that matters.

Answer 7

this is corny, but look for those who show traights. Florists, clergyman...joking.

I'm going to suggest finding the local MCC church and attend it. Great place to meet great guys. Local gay/straight alliance club in your high school.

You might also try online places like yahoo groups, chat rooms like gay.com. Also do a search for teen chat rooms. I'm pretty sure there are some. Maybe even doing a myspace page and state who you are on it. You never know who might read it and find you.

good luck

Answer 8

You really shouldn't be a closest bi its better for your mental health to be open. I know there are people out there that are against that but don't even listen to what they have to say . If you want to meet people,just go out I don't know how old you are but you can go to concerts etc there lots of people around you just go out and have fun and Im sure you'll meet someone you really like.

Answer 9

That chick who wrote first is messed up. Bi's Gay's and all those people have rights too. Anyways, look for a guy umm...sorry not sure...go to a gay bar..i hear they are pretty cool..

Answer 10

first of all before you try to get a boyfriend you need to come out and be proud of who you are. You can't have a healthy relationship when you are trying to hide.... but to answer your question go to gay friendly bars or clubs. Sometimes it can be hard to tell if someone is gay. You can also try dating sites like match.com or any other dating site. They usually list thier sexual orientation.