I am 27 years old - I have 3 children - ages - 7, 6 and 1 1/2 I planned for the first and last but not for the second - She is a very loving child and I am not thinking that its because I did not plan for her and I don't know if something is wrong with me but I find that I cannot respond naturally to her as I do with the other 2. I force myself to be loving to her so the preference is not obvious. I know it is though as she is the only one of the 3 that is ever loving to me - kisses me goodnight even when I scold her when the other 2 don't. All 3 of them are the same father - we live together at home - 5 of us. I don't know what is wrong with me.
2006-08-04 04:20:39 · 8 answers · asked by arlene j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is the child more freely giving of love and the other two are not. You get from her, without effort, what it probably takes effort to sometimes get from the others. It doesn't mean you love her less anymore than thinking the other two children love you less.
I have two sons, grown now, love them both but favor my oldest. He is more fun to be with and that doesn't mean I don't love the other. Over the years, I can see times when I just liked being around one more than the other. This happens, when they are all teenagers you may not even like any one of the three.
Relax, it doesn't sound like a horrible thing. Love them all as the individuals they are and try not to love them in some bulk fashion. The tension you are putting on yourself will show more than the number of hugs each gets.
2006-08-04 04:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by brenda c 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If that's the way you feel, then it is possible, and I'm sure you aren't the only one who has felt that way. Maybe it isn't the fact that she wasn't 'planned' that bothers you, maybe it's that she reminds you of a time in your life when you were sad or hurt by other things going on. From the way you speak of her, I think it's obvious that you do love her. If it becomes a problem that you think is having a negative effect on her personality development, it might not be a bad idea to get some counseling.
2006-08-04 04:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by sherrie_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelin it so it's possible, but u obviously do love ur child otherwise u wud not b so concerned - try 2 treat them all equally tho (i know how painful it can b when that's not the case) even if it is an effort on ur part.
2006-08-04 05:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by wotagem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Lady, I can't believe that u don't love to your own child..u know there are a lot of women that can't to have a baby and God gave to u that opportunity, OK. u don't planned to have your second child but happened, so u have to love her like your mother loved you nobody knows is our parents planned to have us..but we're here girl..and they love us..so to pray to God and asking to him for love every single day of your life..patience and you will see that all in your life with your sons will be so good...Take care and God bless u
2006-08-04 04:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by chula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go and get some help how can you don't love your own child that you help created go and see a doctor please and when she gets older she'll notice the way you treat her then what will you say to her when she tuns on you love all your kids the same
2006-08-04 04:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can not love one of her children , just forget that u didn't t plan for her .
2006-08-04 04:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by The spider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to forget about this!! she seems like the sweetest child!! don't think you love her less.. because it seems that on the contrary.. you love her MORE but don't show it as much as you do with the other to
2006-08-04 04:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Maria18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probley dont love her any less, its proble just thefact she was un planed, but sdont worry, and she seens so cute,
2006-08-04 04:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Leesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋