Please Help......?

Question

Ok i this girl i know from school is pregant but she doesnt know who the father is her bf's or some1 elses all she knows is she had sex at age 14 and both times the condom broke. and now shes scared i feel bad 4 her but at the same time i dont b/c a warned her about condoms breaking and stuff.. But the real q is she wants her bf to be the father b/c he asked to like marry her and stuff but her bf doesnt know that she was cheating him with some1 else and shes scared to tell him cause shes scared hell dump her. wat should she do shes only 14 should she tell him now or wait till their married and out of highschool

its not me u retartes its another girl im trying to help her out derffff

she hasnt told her parents yet

Answer 1

She should tell him anyway. If hes a man, he'll stay with her through it if he really wants the baby. Tell your 14 yr old friend that next year she needs to be enrolled in a plan for parenting class at school. And you can also, tell her that sometimes condoms break because the guy doesn't put them on correctly, 14 yr olds aren't skilled at putting condoms on. She needs to learn, so she can teach them how to do it.

Answer 2

She needs to have a DNA test done to find out who the father is. She is not ready for kids or a marriage since she cheated on her boyfriend in the first place. And being so young she should be thinking about school not sex. Sex is for grown folks not children.

Answer 3

Before anything she needs to find out who the father is. She shouldn't get married with this boy if she's not sure. She doesn't have to tell him but she should just tell him she wants to wait to get married when she knows the facts of who the father is then she can make a decision.

Answer 4

What is a 14 year old baby doing having sex -- much less with two different guys at the same time? She's not ready to have a baby - nor get married. She wasn't READY to have sex!!! This just makes me sad. You didn't say anything about how her parents feel.

Answer 5

Let this be a lesson for you and all your other friends. condoms are not 100% safe. fight the peer pressure of having sex doing drugs and other things that will put you in a situation you might regret at such a young age. if your friend has a hard time speaking to her parents about her current situation advise her to speak to a guidance counselor who am sure will be able to channel this matter in the right direction. please get through at least high school first before she start thinking about marriage.
remember some guys will say nice things to you just to get into your pants and once they do things like this can happen. cheating can lead to STD's, pregnancy, rumors, drama and everybody talking crap about you in school.

Answer 6

The best thing to do is get the baby adopted (call the loving couple in the college newspaper near you and have them foot the bill usually).

In any case, a child is not an adequate reason to marry at 14.

Answer 7

Tell your friend to first tell her parents, her parents can help her make this decision better. Tell her parents rather or not she wants to have this baby and that her boyfriend wants to marry her. She then needs to call or meet with this other guy & tell him that she's pregnant, and there's a possibility that the child may be his. Tell her to tell him that she doesn't need anything from him except a DNA test because she wants the air to be cleared; make sure she mentions her boyfriend's proposal to the other guy b/c he needs to know that she doesn't want nothing from him. She then needs to tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him and see if he wants to stick by her side. Ask her to tell her boyfriend that he needs to take a DNA test, too. If he doesn't she needs to seek counseling or conselment from everyone around her because she's emotional.

Answer 8

I know what she is going through. If she is wanting to get married for the idea of she is pregnant and has too then she should really wait. First she needs a job and start worry about herself the rest is up to God and her for the sake of the baby. Honestly they should wait. I know it is going to be hard but, she needs to finish school and prepare there future before they jump into it.

Answer 9

DIS SUM MAURY TYPE S*** AND WHAT'S GONNA REALLY HURT HER IS IF SHE CAN'T FIND HER BABY FATHER SHE'S GONNA BE MAD AT HERSELF BECAUSE NOW HER BABY HAS TO GROW UP WITHOUT IT'S FATHER EVENTHOUGH SUMBODY MIGHT STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND BE THERE FOR HER AND THE BABY. WHAT SHE NEED TO DO IS TELL HER BF SO THAT SHE CAN GET IT OFF HER CHEST NO MATTER HOW HARD IT MIGHT B SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WAS DOING WHEN SHE DID IT SO SHE JUST NEED TO DEAL WITH IT. OH AND ANOTHER THING SHE TOO YOUNG TO BE HAVING SEX AND THINKING ABOUT GETTING MARRIED ANYWAY.

Answer 10

first she needs 2 tell her parents. talk about abortion and wither she wants 2 do it or not. then get the boyfriend and other guy and talk 2 them. but her parents r the only people who will really know what 2 do.