I think my soon to be husband is up to something. I walked in and caught him masterbating to the computer while I was waiting for him to come to bed. Ive never known him to to that before. we have always watched it together Is it the first stage of cheating?It really upset me and made me feel like I had already caught him cheating.Whay should I think?
2006-08-04 04:10:41 · 18 answers · asked by bethmix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No big deal, I do it and I would never cheat on my wife. It's fun that's all. One thing though, make sure he covers the keyboard so the buttons don't stick. lol. Don't let it bother you, in fact, he is probably more shocked that you walked in on him.
2006-08-04 04:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish people would stop asking this question. Now all the holy roller, holier than thou, bible thumpers are going to project there morals on others. You don't even have a logical question. You have always watched it together? what does that mean? Whether you want to admit it or not, almost, and I say almost, everybody masturbates. I think the bigger problem is your self worth. He must not love you because he masturbates is a dumb thought. If he has never given you any indication that he has cheated or wants to cheat than I say you are just being paranoid. If you have trust issues to begin with, that's not a great way to start a relationship.
2006-08-04 04:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've been married for 16 yrs and I constantly pleasure myself, my hubby however doesn't. Furthermore, I've watched guys oncam/online GET off for me, no big deal. HOWEVER, be very careful sometimes the people on the other end of the cam/online want to meet the VIEWER, THAT'S where all this could lead to.
I would say---talk to him, ask him how far he has gone with the online stimulation, is he watching someone in particular? and why has he stopped watching it with you.
If he's your soon to be--you'd want to know everything upfront. Don't dramatize it nor make it a screaming match, just talk and don't lose your temper.
2006-08-04 04:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by bye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what he was masturbating to, but maybe he just wanted some time to himself. I don't really understand why you would think ti was the first step to cheating. The first step to cheating would be him having cybersex with some lady who lived in the same town, then I could see you worrying. But worrying about him tossing off while you aren't right there with him I really can't see.
Just my 2 cents worth
2006-08-04 04:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you young? I used to think the same way you did a few years back. The awful truth is that all men masturbate, women do too. It is perfectly normal to masturbate, especially in males. If it bothers you, tell him, but, try not to judge him. He will get defensive about it. Maybe you two can have some fun together. ;) Congratulations on the engagement. I wish you a happy marriage.
2006-08-04 04:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ca-C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What ? don't marry him he's a pervert sneaking out of bed to masturbate what is his problem he had the real thing right next to him...You need to think long and hard about this...I been with my husband for seven years and we never had a problem with our sex life it gets better every time...Your not even married and he's already sneaking around with the computer he sound shady to me...
2006-08-04 04:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he has to hide it from you. Better to get this figured out before you get married. All men and woman do it. Some just don't want to admit to it. I would be upset and hurt that he was doing that instead on doing stuff with me! Just talk to him...what will it hurt!
2006-08-04 04:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he using a webcam while masterbating? I would confront him and ask him if he is. If he's going to be your future husband honesty and trust need to happen if you want your relationship to last.
2006-08-04 04:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making yourself nuts over nothing! The man is human, don't think he's never going to do that and it's no reflection on you or the ststus of your relationship. Did you ever think he was trying to take care of it so he lasted longer for you?
2006-08-04 04:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋