feeling bad?

Question

I asked my wife for a divorce after several reasons, but now feeling bad about it . she cant stop crying and I know it was the right thing to do. why do I feel so guilty about this?

Answer 1

Because you still care for her, and you have hurt her very badly.

Any married person has their own drawing line when it comes to leaving the relationship, and everybody else has their opinion and has to put their 2 cents in. I hate that.

If you have good reasons to leave, and you know it is over, at least you have been honest with her instead of living all your life with somebody feeling miserable. Do all that is possible to ease her pain--offer to pay for counseling for her or the both of you. Give her most of the joint property, you can always make more money and buy more stuff. If you have children, offer as much time and committment as you can in their lives. And remember you are breaking this poor girl's heart and crushing her dream of living happily ever after. Be kind, patient, and gentle, but firm in your decision to leave.

Answer 2

Because your human and no matter how good your reasons are, it's never fun to hurt someone. I just had to do the same thing but I know it's for the best, I am still going through a ton of guilt over it but I just have to keep telling myself that this is only a moment in time and we'll all be ok in the end.

Answer 3

You care about her otherwise you would have never gotten married. If your sure it was the right thing than stick to it. Feeling bad is o.k.,it means your not an unfeeling jerk but dont get back into the relationship because she is crying, you will end up miserable. She will be o.k. in time just dont give in and I would advise you to not play friends it might make it worse for her, for now. Maybe down the road you can be friends.

Answer 4

feeling guilty is a good thing. Sometimes men dont care what happens after a breakup. This shows compassion for your wife. You chose to do what is right for you......or are you having second thoughts? If you are try some marriage counseling. Good luck.

Answer 5

It is natural to feel guilty. Obviously you have moved on emotionally. I also think it is in a woman to feel like a failure if the marriage is ending, she probably new this was coming. But to actually come to terms is a hard thing to handle. she will get over it and so will you.

Answer 6

Maybe because there is more to be done to save this marriage but you just don't know what it is but know there must be...exhaust all your options, have no regrets...you should not feel so guilty if your doing the right thing.

Answer 7

oh come on you no why
are you looking for someone to say come cry on my shoulder
please stop right there guilt is all you have
stop feeling sorry for your self
start acting like a man
it is your wife i feel sorry for not you
you come on here saying your wife is crying non stop because of you
get over your self
think i am glad you want a divorce
gives your wife a chance to find a real man who will love her not a selfish one like you

Answer 8

You feel guilty because you're giving up and you're breaking vows. Remember those promises you made? In sickness and in health? For richer or poorer? For better or worse?

Maybe you should rethink it, especially if your "several reasons" are selfish ones. And if you have kids, unless there is abuse, adultery or addiction problems, you really should stay put.

Answer 9

Maybe it's because you do love her and do care for her but not the way a husband should love a wife. Feel the same with my husband

Answer 10

Because marriage is "until death do us part", not until something bad happens do us part, unless you have been betrayed by her. Then, by all means, you shouldn't feel guilty about wanting out!