so, there is me and this guy. we know each other for 6 months. he is a real "player" and loves taking his chances. i kind of fell in love. even though i knew what awaited me.. we saw each other often for a long time, then less. because of him. now i'm sad and get angry thinking about him. i know we don't have a future. yet i want to see him. badly. but he seems to be in a distance.
i wanted to write him a short message - please help.. do i rather keep it short like "i don't want to see u again" "don't write again" "you have no respect" etc.
or should i explain myself and try to say goodbye? i'm a good person and always try to make things clear before breaking up. i still love him badly. but i'm also heartbroken, soo angry and disappointed and wanted to tell him what's not ok.
what do i do?
details or keep it short&cool. this one distracts me from work and everything.. i need to do something. i'm lost in thoughts for days :(
i appreciate your advice!!!
2006-08-04 03:22:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You got into the situation knowing how he was, so how can you be upset with him? You have only ur self to blame. If u want to end it end it on good terms because he was who he was yet u knew and still feel in love knowing eventually that u would be hurt but to no evail u still loved him and want him to change. He is not be credited with ur pain but u must understand no one is to blame. Good luck to u.
2006-08-04 03:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also young, and I understand the way you feel. I'm not saying that you should completely forget about him, but he did cheat on you. From what i gather, it seems that he was just using you as a 'backup' girlfriend for whenever he was alone. Also, it's pretty hard to maintain a long-distance relationship so that's probably one of the reasons he wanted to end it. Maybe he also thinks you were using him? (Don't ask me how, but this situation's happened to my friend and sometimes guys just don't make any sense) So, it's most likely nothing you did. If you have any doubts and you have the courage, then you could probably ask him yourself. Btw, keep your friends close cuz even though you think there might not be any "fish in the sea," at least you'll still have them :)
2016-03-26 22:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend you keep it short and sweet. This guy already knows what he's doing is wrong and disrespectful to every woman he gets involved with. You need to stop letting this player control your life. He's doing so by getting in your thoughts and distracting you when you should be working. You are still a good person and you'll be an even better person once you get him out of your life.
2006-08-04 03:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your problem, this guy is ruining your life. Tell yourself that he is not going to, don't text him, write to him or even telephone him. It is so degrading to chase after a guy, if he wanted you you wouldn't have to chase after him, he would do all the running. Life will get much better for you and don't give up because there are lots of nice, normal guys out there just waiting to meet a girl like you. Good luck and keep smiling. Do not be a doormat.
2006-08-04 03:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there - done that - it took me ages to figure it out and leave... you are not really in love with him, you are inlove with the image of him that he portrayed to you for a short time.. he is a player and you meant nothing to him...
write 2 letters and give which ever one you think is best I think short "hey I am moving on, I think we are better off apart I hope you find that perfect someone for you"
then dont rush into a new relationship because it wont work... take some time to enjoy being single.. beleive me its worth it...
good luck
2006-08-04 03:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you instead of writing him , you should just talk to him and be honest, explain that you know what he's about and you really care for him, but you cant deal with his "player ways" . see what he says, if he's willing to change then give him some time, but if not, you said your peace and you can move on.
2006-08-04 03:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to let go even when you know you should. Go cold turkey. No letter, no commuication. Move on...
It won't be easy but you will be better off in the long run.
2006-08-04 03:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by moonlite1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really know ur feelings are not worth it don't say anything at all why should he deserve to hear a message from you...ur better off without find someone who you can really share your time with and be happy...u said urself...ur miserable
2006-08-04 03:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i think you should tell him everything and let him know what a jerk he is ....I know it's not as easy as this but he doesn't deserve you and you're better off without him....It will only take time for you to get over him and don't fall for his sweet talking just in case he tries to.....'hope it helps...
2006-08-04 03:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jenifer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a really good time in bed and he'll be back!
2006-08-04 03:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Just askn with a smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋