Is my girlfriend cheating on me or doesn't love me anymore?

Question

Hi i'm having a problem with my GFshe's 20 and i'm 18 so here's how i picture the problem...we started going out officialy in July,what i mean by this is that we were in a relationship until june we only hanged out either alone either with some friends.Anyway she started going to a gym to work out because she thinks she's fat but she isn't ii told her that anyway we usually hanged out from 19:00 until 23:00 but nowadays i only see her from 21:00 to 22:00 or something like this i asked her why? and she told me that she's very busy and tired because of the gym.The truth is that she has received a scolarship in Spain for 9 months and she has to take care of the paperwork.Anyway i recently found out that she has some second taughts about going,because she hasn't got anyone there no friends and because of me.I was supposed to meet her today but she told me she has to go to the gym and after that is girls night out...and she will make up the lost time tonight.her religion forbids her to lie

I don't think that she's cheating with somebody at the gym,because she only spends 1-2 hours there and either then that she's home.A few days ago we had a talk about what will become of our relationship after she goes to Spain to study,she said that i'll be free to do what ever i want,so that was a shock to me because i didn't think we would talk about this only for another couple of weeks or a month.I said to her that i woul like to have a relationship at long distance,because i hah a previous one with my ex,she said that she dosen't think that she could live so long without a BF.So that niight we both cryed.I talked to her sister 1 night before the talk and she said to me that she said that i'm very very very very sweet and she cares a lot about me and she knows that if she loses me she will never find somebody else like me.And now i feel that is all my fault that i said to her some things that i should't have said,because i wanted to be honest with her.

Among the things i said to her in that talk was that she hurt my very very much and i was shocked and i realized then that all was just a summer relationship.At that point she said that it wasn't true that i was the first boy who told her i love you and that i don't deserve to be sad because i'm the only true person in this world who dosen't deserve it,and that she's really sorry and regrets it.She also told me that she was not feeling well and she was tired also and if she knew that the thing she said would have hurt me so much,then she wouldn't have said it and would not have seen me that night,because she wasn't aware of what she was saying. Anyway i love this girl so much and we have a lot of things in common,the days i spent with her were the best ones in my life.So i'm thinking that i becamed a little paranoid with this situation....I think we are soulmates but don't know for sure,i mean i know 4 sure but i don't know if she knows....so help...

Answer 1

You probably don't want to hear this but she is trying to let you down gently. She needs some space from you, perhaps from relationship altogether to decide what to do with her life. This is an important time for her and she may be worried about making the wrong decision.
Going to the gym will make her tired and if she has lots of paperwork to do for the scholarship then she doesn't really have time for a relationship.
If you are soul mates it wont matter if she goes to spain and you both see other people, you will end up together at a later stage of life. Don't sweat on making everything work right now. If you force the situation you will lose her altogether.

Answer 2

you're nicely suited. she is in simple terms no longer truthful. She hasn't interior the previous, and you leaving won't make issues from now on suited. i comprehend you could no longer in basic terms take the new child from her pondering you're leaving for boot camp presently, yet come across a fashion so as that the new child would be waiting to stay with somebody on your loved ones for weekends and what-no longer on a similar time as you're long previous. verify to drop the female. She's no longer incredibly actual worth the heartache. you would be able to desire to tackle this extra effective once you have sufficient time to accomplish that, yet nicely suited now's no longer that ingredient. So in the mean time verify that on a similar time as you're long previous your loved ones will nonetheless be waiting to analyze up on and spend time with the new child.

Answer 3

Well I would say to you she most likely isn't cheating on you.Ask her if you can come to the gym with her.Make her think you wanna work out and spend time with her also.Then if it's girls night make it guys night out the same night.So your both entertained by the time you both get home and you can spend some time together then.

Answer 4

I agree, go to the gym with her. If she is really going to the gym, you can be the one with her and make sure nothing is going on. If she isn't going to the gym... well it should be obvious by her reaction when you tell her you want to go with her. Good luck.

Answer 5

Why not go to the gym with her?

Answer 6

she's just not that into you.. drop her and find someone who is.