How should I handle this?

Question

My ex and I are still in love with each other, we spend almost everyday together. He lives in the next apt. over from me. I get mad easily and constantly walk away from him because I feel like he doesn't understand what I feel. We only broke up because of a simple misunderstanding that led to a fight, and then to our break up. Everyone thinks that we should go our separate ways but we keep coming back. He's the second guy that I ever loved and has seriously replaced the first one...it's confusing because walking away is the easiest thing for anyone to do. I've prayed on it, and I've consulted my Pastor, because I'm trusted to do the right thing, it was left up to me to find out how to deal iwth this, but I need help. It's depressing me. He says he needs time to heal from his past, and I said that he should have did that before he got with me. I want to give him time, but before we go together we were friends, now he don't even want to do the things we did when we were friends. I'm hurt

Answer 1

It is hard but I would think that time heals and helps someone make decisions. I would continue praying as you have and give him time. I went through it before. I once lived in a small town with a guy and had a hard time giving us the space that we needed when I moved away it gave us both time to think of what we both wanted.

Sometimes you really don't know what you have until it is gone. Maybe if he had time while you are away or giving him space he will come to this realization. Try taking a girls trip or something as it would be hard especially if lives next door.

Good luck and I hope all works out. Seems like you are on the right track.

Answer 2

Its basically like this. You and your man are defying the advice from almost everyone in your social circles. It is what it is. I mean I still love you its just not healthy for me to be around you all the time. Occupy your time with other activities. We ain't married yet. Stop acting like it. That's not whats up. Save that for that designated tI'me. I trip because im uncomfortable at times. You came through multiple times for me in just this week alone. Your my Kinu after all. I cannot be smothered. Give me space. A gift such as yourself would be pretty hard to throw away. Allow me to miss you. Allow yourself to miss me. Space works wonders. If you can't do that then Let me know. I'm not here to hurt you Kinu. I'm your Manji Always.

-- Solace Dyer 2

Answer 3

Be easy. Dont walk off cause guy seriously hate that and it makes matters worse. If you care for him give him space. See him when he wants to see you.

Answer 4

give him time-guys sometimes don't know what they have until it is gone. stay away a few days. that will work. good luck babe.

Answer 5

You are very annoying. Leave him alone and let him come to you when he is ready to be your lover again.