my life is over ive lost everyone and now i want to die.....?

Question

ive turned to evrything.....alcohol drugs...nothing workss...ive even been to a fukin counceller person....im 18, got a daughter but im jus not bothered anymore i dont care about anything

Answer 1

oh Hun something must of happened for you too get so upset see Dr i am sure they can help did you give the counsellor a chance it can take few months for that to work you need to tell them whats bothering you for him or she to help

Answer 2

Hi damaged... I can empathize with your pain. And I truly wish you the best. I'm not a religious person, but I know that the church does a lot of good things for folks in situations like you. They sometimes have rehab programs in case you are still into the drug/alcohol abuse, and babysitting programs, which you may need... and even sometimes they have support groups. You might meet someone to care about again, and start a new life. I'm not saying that you have to become a bible thumper, but if nothing else seems to work, what have you got to lose?
Now, the "tough love" part.... since you had the balls to bring a daughter into the world, then have the balls to stick around long enough to see her grow up. Support her, nurture her and make sure that she is healthy, both physically and emotionally. You are not in this alone... she may feel like she has lost something too... and in her own way, thanks god that you are still here for her. And if you still think that you can't handle it, give her up for adoption.... you'll hate yourself for it, but at least let her have a chance in this world. Maybe you can share your story, and help someone else. My prayers are with you and your daughter....

Answer 3

Right now you are tired from looking after a crying baby.
I have five children and lack of sleep can do a lot of damage to a spirit even if you start out strong to begin with.
Add other things and it's a formula for a total melt down.

Go get help.Now.

I left you a post on your first question - here it is again - don't take the time to read it if you already have. Just- go- do- now,
since I don't know where you are
this is a start,
look up crisis helplines for your state on line

I was just on one online in PA that offered daycare help. So there is help. You just have to go for it.

yuo can do it in the phone book, but it'll be a ***** for sure trying to find the number.
Health and Human Services
Social Services
in the Government pages
Keep trying the government numbers till you find the one you need

If you really feel desperate like it becomes life threatening for either of you - call 911 or take yourself and the baby to the emergency room -before something hhappens

Here's my last post-


donworybhapy
23 minutes ago



I can't guarantee what social services will do for you cause I don't know your circumstances.

They helped me a lot though when my third child was born and they did not take any of my children.

My husband fell on the stairs while holding our son, broke babies leg. Investigation, doctors said that's the way it happened, no abuse. Of course we knew that.

Because both the babies legs were in a cast (they do that to stabilize the broken one)

we were considered at risk. Because he required extra care.

They got me a babysitter for my other two children. Bless them they do not know how this helped.

Normally I do not have a good opinion of social services, but they really helped.

Call them, tell them you are alone, you need help, you haven't slept, they should help. I would think you are considered at risk.

They can get you formula and clothing. They should get you someone to watch the baby at least while your in school and working. Some of that is income based but don't worry about that now. Just go, call, get help.

I don't think they would take her away from you unless there was something terribly wrong.

And if you get help now, your less likely to loose her.Or worse.

And bless you, don't worry about spelling, just do what you have to to take care of your baby.

Answer 4

Do you believe in God? This is the only thing you have not turned to try it. Some one or something has been keeping you around and there is someone you still care about or you would not still be here. Look into your daughter eyes and see her further you can really ruin her life being the way you are. I love you and God loves you too. Nothing or anyone else can change us if we don't want to be changed. You have to be willing to change and want to change before anyone can help. It takes a shorter time to get to the point you are at now. It will take slower paste and longer time to get back. One step at a time even if one step is a month. You will eventually get there. I will be praying for you.

Answer 5

Perhaps a counselor is not what you need. Try talking to your family about your feelings and try to get some help from an MD. You may have clinical depression caused by an imbalance of hormones. Only a doctor can tell you if that is the case. Medications and therapy may be able to help you, and there are free services if you need them. Don't just give up, you have a daughter. At least for her sake you have to go out and try to get help. Things will get better, and some would say that you have to hit bottom before you can pick yourself up. I would seriously suggest talking to someone before you take any drastic measures. Good luck and blessed be. V-

Answer 6

It's possible that the councellor assigned to your case didn't meet your needs, therefor get a second or third opinion, ask for a different councellor. Make an appointment with your family doctor and explain your anxieties, and or any emergency department they will help you in your circumstance/s. Your daughter needs you, and you have the ability to turn things around for the both of you. There is a lot of help out there for you both, with just the effort you put in will open many doors of opportunity but you must take care of your anxieties and work through them to accomplish that. You are very young to have the responsibility of raising a child and that can be a bit scarry, sometimes, but you can do it. You just have to beleive in your parenting and having supportive people around you will make a big difference too. Don't hesitate to ask for help, it doesn't make you any less of a person, it makes you a wise one. Therefore take small steps towards recovery, give yourself time to heal. You will find sometimes it seems overwhelming and can do steps that are only minutes at a time, but that's okay, they are still steps ahead. In time you will get stronger, and your steps will be bigger and faster towards those open doors of opportunity. Now the decisions are yours and they are all doable, will you hinder your daughters chance at having a beautiful and nurturing future because of selfishness, or will you be a mature young man and be a proud father to someday walk your daughter down the isle of matrimony, and/or the isle of graduation at her success in college. Pride for such events no one can take from the both of you doing it together and having succeeded such goals. I hope I have helped a bit, and have given you a few things to think about. In the meanwhile, be good to yourselves, take care, and wishing you strength and courage!

Answer 7

You need to get a grip,you already have more than 1000's people in the form of a beautuful daughter.So many people who can't have children would give everything to have what you have.You are very lucky,think about all the people in the world that are worse off than you.There is no war's,hurricaines,earthquakes,major poverty and starvation wher you live.
Please wake up and enjoy your life,take each day as it comes,you are in charge of your own destiny,you can make your life what you wan't it to be.And look after your daughter for gods sake a child is a precious thing.

Answer 8

I do understand ! And explaining it to people sometimes is useless, as what may be major to you, may mean nothing to others, like silly answers, such as, "Why dont you go running, or you need to get out, or , you should meet people. When we are in a deep depression, these things are ridiculous !!! They simply have never experienced such deep levels of depression. For me the future was impossible, given the situation ... Time changed it through what now , I see, had to have been an act of God. What could have never happened for me (Or I thought), actually did happen. I guess a miracle. It took 3yrs. though. So wait, and hope, and pray... In the meantime, anti-depressants can help....

Answer 9

You're 18, you've got a long life ahead of you... this is just a blip and you should try to avoid suicidal thoughts... The best quote I've heard is that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. In other words, things can get better, but if you die they don't have chance to get better, ever.

You have a daughter who loves you and that in itself is worth giving your all for.

You say you've tried everything, alcohol and drugs but you're trying the wrong things. Try getting a job and making something of yourself to make you and your daughter proud.

Good luck! xxxxxxx

Answer 10

You said you've tried everything--but have you tried Jesus? I'm not talking religion--I'm talking relationship. When I was 26 (going through a divorce, depressed, and caring for an infant son) I gave my life back to Him, and He has stuck right with me through the good, the bad, and the ugly. All you have to do is ask Him. He's real. He's there. He's just waiting for you to ask Him to come into your life. Tell Him exactly how you're feeling--what makes you mad, sad, angry, depressed. Tell Him everything. He loves you right where you're at, and I promise He will bring you a peace like you've never known. Go ahead and try it. What have you got to lose?

Answer 11

I used to feel like you. I would strongly suggest getting off of the drugs and alcohol. Then I feel that it would be beneficial for you to find the source of your unhappiness. This requires that you are totally honest with yourself. It is also possible that you may need medication, but try leaving the drugs and alcohol alone first.