he uses our house for showers and everthing you would do in your house but does not sleep with me has his place next door for some time whats going on
2006-08-04 02:51:03 · 29 answers · asked by youngheart_51 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we been married about 20yrs this has been going on for 2yrs. we werent sleeping together prior to him building his own little
little place we argued alot
2006-08-04 03:29:56 · update #1
I don't know... Why don't you ask him instead of asking us?
2006-08-04 02:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Zach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but, it certainly does not sound good. You, as his wife, have the right to know exactly what is going on. I think you are waiting a little to long to ask what the problem might be and to have a sincere talk with him. If he is unhappy in the relationship, it's time to tell you, explain himself. Tell him you are unhappy about seeing him come and go and yet to be no part of his life and if it continues and he chooses to leave, you cannot tolerate him "just using the house" as he is doing.
Your mental health and your emotions are at stake so you do need an answer. Mind you, it may not be an answer that you will like or want, but at least you will know and can handle the situation much better knowing than wondering.
I wish you the best of luck with this and remember that it's time to think about yourself, he is already doing what he wants to. The best I can say is to grab all of your courage, and as his wife, demand to know.
2006-08-04 03:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your man is cheating or keeping something from you. You need to get to the bottom of that at once. There is no reason in hell that he cannot sleep beside his own wife. Question about it and if he gives you an answer don't believe it unless he says that he is cheating on you because sleeping dogs lie. What you need to do is congure you up a guy friend and bring him over to the house and make sure he is just a friend, you are not sleeping with him ya'll just talk about work and such things, and if your husband accuses you of cheating he is the one doing it. It never fails. Try it and good luck. IF HE PUTS HIS HANDS ON YOU BEAT HIS TAIL.
2006-08-04 03:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by hnic_shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not telling us much, like age, length of marriage, any medical problems that might cause a problem.
If you husband is having some medical problems, maybe he is trying to avoid you. Since he sleeps next door it does not sound like he is having an affair.
You need to talk with him, find out what is going on, go to doctors and marriage counselor.
2006-08-04 02:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man! Wonder why you haven't put your foot down sooner. You as his wife needs an explanation from him. Sounds shifty. Really need to find out from him and whether or not his excuse or reasoning is valid. If he truly wants a place of his own... you might consider posing the question of separation or divorce. Might bring him back to the bedroom!
Get on him and get some answers!
2006-08-04 03:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what is going on but why are you married if you cant sleep together. You need to go over there late and night and see what is really going on. I can understand having two houses, if one was used for rental property or something but NOT for him to sleep in.
Something smells fishy.
2006-08-04 02:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but something isn't right. This sounds like a BIG case of infidelity. If not, he is definately hiding something. It may not be so bad if you 2 weren't married, but since you are married, his behavior is unacceptable. The writing's on the wall, and the final choice is up to you. Be strong.
2006-08-04 02:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by O.K.Q.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you got some serious issues to work out between the two of you. I can only make assumptions, but you need to get to the heart of the matter by talking to your husband. Its the two of you thats in the relationship not me and everyone else thats going to answer this question. Talk to him and find out whats going on.
2006-08-04 02:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times my husb. also does this --explaining that he wants 2 b alone 8 times & needs some space . Well ido"nt mind because such small things MUST b over looked 2 have a successful marriage.
2006-08-04 03:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by jayjagjjj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him.. But maybe you have bad sleeping habits? Some people don't sleep together because the other person has a loud snore, or is restless in their sleep and can't relax.
2006-08-04 02:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by cuteangel327 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on dark pants, shirt and hooded sweat shirt. Get a set of night vision glasses. Then carefully keep an eye on his place of sleeping. You have me curious, too.
2006-08-04 02:55:56 · answer #11 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋