My boyfriend and I have been planning a trip to Disneyworld for a couple of months now and are about to leave for Orlando this weekend. My mom thinks I shouldnt go because he didnt pay for my part of the trip. His family is wealthy and used their frequent flyer miles for our flight, their Hilton Honors points to upgrade our hotel room and my boyfriend suggested paying for my food if I pay for my theme park tickets and hotel room portion. I think this is more than generous, but my mom thinks a real gentleman pays for everything and a true "lady" wouldnt go unless I make him. This seems really outdated to me, but I want to know what everyone thinks! Please help, its causing a big fight between our families!
2006-08-04 02:45:17 · 9 answers · asked by duchessamber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just for Clarification: he offered to pay for MY food if I buy my own theme park tickets and pay a small portion of the hotel.
2006-08-04 03:11:25 · update #1
oh gosh, more detail, sorry: we're 20 and 21 so we're still in college, we've been dating for about 10 months
2006-08-04 03:19:58 · update #2
If you were engaged, married, or otherwise completely involved in a long term relationship, i.e. you have been dating 5+ years, then yeah he should; however just because his family has a bit more money does not mean that he should have to pay for everything. Honestly, I would simply tell your mother that a true lady would not squabble over such tings and bring dissent ion into the situation. A True lady would be gracious to the utmost that her boyfriend was taking her on such a trip and taking care of things which are not his total responsibility. the rules of decorum suggest that he should make an effort to pay for it and you should politely decline to allow him to pay for it, as you are not married and therefore do have some personal responsibility.
2006-08-04 02:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 9⤊ 3⤋
Maybe prior to the 70's mom.
The real question lies with you; do you want to go?
Lets flip the script and say you were going with a girl friend and the same scenario applied. I think the offer would hold to be very generous. After all think what it would cost if you had to pay 100% of your share.
One thing does come to mind though. Is your boyfriend a cheapskate? Depending how long you have been boyfriend/girlfriend and your ages I kind of have to agree with mom and say...really shouldn't he WANT to pay for it all. Seems like he would want to show you a good time and by doing so express his love for you and whats to come.
Rich or not you need to take a hard look at this guys character.
2006-08-04 03:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I'm not sure. If you are both working, then you should both bring spending money. If he invited you on the trip, it would be expected that he pay for it - but what would be nice is if you guys had discussed it first. Like he should've said, "I'll cover our hotel rooms if you buy us dinner occasionally." I think it's asking a lot for the guy to pay for everything, but it would be very nice and gentlemanly on his part if he did. I wouldn't expect it and would graciously offer to pay for food and things like that. I hope the families can come to an agreement. Enjoy the trip!
2006-08-04 03:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long have u been together. If it's less than 1 year, it's not mandatory for him to pay for everything. But, on the other hand, if he knows your financial situation and if he knows a trip would be quite a sacrifice from your side, he shouldn't have asked you to go with him on trip, unless he pays for everything. So, if you find the cost higher than you and your family afford, like you going on trip and leaving your parents with just susbsistance money, I advice you to tell him you can not afford the trip and that he should go alone. That way you'll see if he's really caring about you or not. If he cares for you he will prefer not to go anywhere or pay your part, too. If he doesn't care, he will go alone or with his friends. If he does so, you better dump him.
2006-08-04 03:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are not married he is under no obligation to pay full expenses. I think the two of you reaching an agreement to split costs is ideal.
2006-08-04 02:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you and your boyfriend work it out between you and go and have fun. Leave the families at home to fight to their hearts content.
2006-08-04 02:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it extremely is in all probability what he capability.. while you're no longer waiting to sleep with him yet i might recommend no longer letting him pay for a holiday for the two certainly one of you; he would nicely assume to get laid in return.
2016-12-14 19:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by niederberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is another:are man and woman equal?then pay for yourself!!!
but if you do not have the money then your boyfriend was rude by asking you to come with him.
2006-08-04 02:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by fulop_fulker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the past the boyfriend always paid and got his reward when he got there.
2006-08-04 02:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by angelo26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋