Twice widowed within the last 3 years (my latest husband passed away this July at 52. I had just turned 50), I interested to learn about the current status of women who ended up being widows to more than one husband. Despite the ocean of information regarding widowhood in this country, I was still not able to access any statistics or support groups for the "twice widowed" group who are facing our very unique problems (e.g. dealing with children of previous marriages when the fathers are no longer around, the in-laws, the self-pity and the preception of being bad omen to the husbands etc.). Realizing that I am among the tiny minority, I would still appreciate contacts and advice from women who are or having been in my uncomfortable shoes for supports and exchange informations. Please kindly help.
2006-08-04 02:42:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am a male 54. your letter has intrigue and interest. i don't know any statistics or case histories. sounds like you married guys with unlucky futures. life is a crapshoot. we don't know how long we have. best of luck to you sweetie, i have to go. don't feel well.-lol.
2006-08-04 02:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However i m not in your shoe as i even cant coz i m a guy......but still i feel bad about your loss....what i could suggest is -
the children of the previous m,arrige would be grown-up wnought to understand your problems and they also might b getting in some relations too...let them move on with life and be like themself but you always b their side to suppodt them and advise them be close to them so that they will also be close to u....regarding in-laws well i think u must b socially in contact with them too coz they were once your-inlaws and once you will b someones inlaw too...then about self-pity then its your age and the loss of husband and that also twice.....u keep yourself busy wiuth something creative like making some creative things......babysitting......tutoring kids....etc etc and regarding others feeling and thinking u as bad omen for your husband dont give a damn to all that bull-#### as thats all stupid to think abt that someone is bad omen for someone and all that......thats not true at all each one have his/her own fate yow r not a good or a band omen for someone.......so dont give a damn to all that feeling like a bad omen to your husband its all false what u do is indulge yopur self in some creative work and keep yourself busy then secondly stay close to all your children as they want your suppodt an u want their support......whats all i can say as i m not that much expirenced and also a guy rathar then a girl i m just a 23 year guy but still thought of try to help u so this much i can say what else to say i dont know and you yourself are a experienced and intellegent person too.....i m sure you will soon cope up with all these problems......
2006-08-12 06:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Vijay Agarwal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my 1st husband to cancer. After 8 years of being alone I married another wonderful man. I recently lost him in a terrible accident. The pain is unbearable. I'm only 50 and widowed twice. Your post was over 8 years ago. How did you survive?
2014-08-11 23:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sorry for that! I know two alike!
2006-08-12 07:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not, but I am sorry for your loss.
2006-08-04 09:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not but i am sorry for your lose
2006-08-12 08:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by helen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋