but I dont know if that's helping much. What can I do to alleviate this?
2006-08-04 02:39:09 · 17 answers · asked by The Starr Company 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i do to , i've got to start anger management classes 2morrow,i acidentially beat my hubby up and went to jail...
2006-08-04 02:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons why therapy and hypnosis are not working for you may be that your choice in doctors has not been so good. There is also the possibility that your angry outburst is fulfilling some unconscious need, aka "Secondary Gain." Any good hypnotist would help you by satisfying unconscious secondary gain with a more appropriate behavior, future pace while you're in trance to see if it is going to work, and then use your own personal anchors (emotional triggers....people/events/things that piss you off) as the very things that help you to access a state of control and calm.
Therapy, may or may not be effective, since they want to know the root cause and often they end up making you feel worse than you really are.
The bottom line is that you're smart enough to recognize a problem with your emotional state, and you have the desire to remedy the situation. A therapist is only going to label you a resistant client, and most psychologists are stupid about this kind of thing anyway. If you have the desire to change a certain aspect of your life, no matter what it may be, you can do it.
I notice you have a reference to your timeline ("...every six months.") What allows you to keep your temper under control for six months? What makes you think your temper is so terrible? I know people who can't go a day without something setting them off. You can go six months....not bad.
I'd recommend you search for a qualified hypno-therapist, and make a conscious effort to change your behavior. Will yourself to have more self-control, and you will have it.
2006-08-04 11:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not too sure about hypnosis, but shrinks should be able to help out with the temper... why isn't that working...?
Keep on trying shrinks, maybe you're just not... finding a good one? If they ask you to do something, be sure to listen and give an honest attempt to do it. I know most of the time, they'll suggest something most people would be like 'Oh, no WAY am I doing that!' but they suggest it for a reason. It should be easy to work on. Also, give them time, they can't work miracles, it takes a lot of work to really solve a problem.
If they're just not helping, uh... try looking it up online? If you blow up every 6 months, then perhaps you're holding in too much anger, and you just can't take it after a while. If you become upset, let it out. Tell whoever made you upset, calmly, that it upset you and please not to do it again. Deal with what makes you angry. The stuff you hear all the time from everyone, lol.
I'd really try to find a counselor though, it should be easy to work on...
2006-08-04 10:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by arcmdark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some good answers given already, but I would like to add something. The problem is not that you get angry, but how you express your anger. Different people have different definitions of "blowing up", but if you are damaging property or another being, it is aproblem. There are many valid reasons in this life for getting angry. Do you always get angry about the same issue? Work on that issue. Do you get angry when you don't get your way? Help others who are less fortunate than you to get some perspective. Every 6 months is not an unreasonable frequency for anger.
2006-08-04 10:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by debbiec1423 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is time to uncover the trigger which brings this episode about.. is usually actived by an associative thought or word from another. Hypnosis is a method of implanting a positive thought into the subconscious but, if one does not eliminate that trigger, there is just another order implanted into the mind which conflicts with a previous one, which is the trigger. Until that is removed or deleted, you will have a reaction to it.
2006-08-04 09:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good one. I had this problem as well. It was not until I wanted to stop acting this way that it was all very clear. There is an issue in your life, something is bothering you. It builds up then you explode. Try expressing it right away instead of stuffing it. This was something I did and it ends up my parents never let me express my feelings so I stuffed them. So it was a habit, and also not my parents fault either. The point is you are doing something about it. Give it time and be honest with yourself. Good luck to you, I hope you find your goal. You can do this.
2006-08-04 09:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Scott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole 'shrinks' thing is very vague. Do you mean psychiatrists, counselors, psychotherapists, what kind of therapists...it goes on and on.
I would suggest talking therapy, preferably psychoanalytic as it NOT suggestive and DOES NOT tell you what to do. Rather give you the time, space and support to discover it for yourself. And especially regarding the 'anger issue' it truly effective and you will see results sooner than you may think.
2006-08-04 10:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Murg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to the shrink and figure out what has you so angry. Then deal with that issue. Anger is almost always fear. What are you afraid of?
Also, learn to understand that adults don't get to act on all their feelings.
2006-08-04 09:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-08-04 09:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Suspended Again! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to join an anger management group. Do you exprees you little hurts or does it pile up causing a straw to break the camels back?
2006-08-04 12:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Philip S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, every time you blow up like that, punch your self in the face as hard as you can. It's called negative reinforcement.
2006-08-04 10:09:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋