See they are both addicts. My brother an alcoholic my mother to prescription medications. They have both hurt me emotionally time after time. I have worked hard in my life to overcome my past. I was a teenage mom who finally earned her Master's degree in Sp. Education. I have 3 daughters who I am trying to provide a good safe home. We had to commit my brothers wife for drugs. She had several car accidents last month with her 11 month old daughter, my niece. Her aunt and my mother have came after me with words. They say I am holier than thou and that I think I am better than everyone else. I just tried to save my sister in laws life along with her daughters. My mother constantly bashes me to other people. I can't be around this kind of negativity any longer. I had to tell her to stay away from me and my family husband and daughters. Was I wrong There is so much more she used to leave me for days when I was a kid. She told me she was going to kill herself.
2006-08-04 02:25:49 · 8 answers · asked by Kimber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
girl, get the hell outta there...save your kids from these kinds of experiences
2006-08-04 02:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong at all. In my opinion you made the best move ever. Try to stay positive and stay away from those people even if it hurts you because you don't need anymore drama in your life because it sounds like you have had enough. Tell your mother you will not see her anymore till she straightens her act up because she is mentally and emotionally hurting the whole family with her actions. I'm not saying do this, but I were in this situation I would have an all out family butt kickin brawl with my mother cause she has done nothing but mentally abuse you. Let her know where you stand in this situation. You are grown now and have the right to express yourself without being worried about her flipping out on you. If she doesn't clean her act up just keep you family and yourself away from them because they obviously need serious help!!!
2006-08-04 02:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by lildevilchild_87 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! This is a toxic relationship and you cannot expose your children to the drugs, alcohol etc. I do not believe in the old saying "blood is thicker than water". With your degree - you know enough about psychology to know you are doing the right thing. If, and when, they clean up their acts you can always reestablish a relationship. Maybe your cutting them out of your and your children's lives will be the wake-up call they need. If not - then you have done what it takes to protect yourself and your children from this emotional warfare.
2006-08-04 02:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am/was in the exact same situation! It one of those things that you just HAVE to do. There is only so much you can do to help. My mom eventually got out of it and now we are friends again. My brother is a different story. I'm still dealing with that mess. But you have done the right thing, by putting a safe distance between your family and them. I know it feels horrible but is the best possible thing you can do right now. Good Luck!
2006-08-04 02:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by dreamofme0202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's classic habit from an alcoholic. Alcohol has a toxin that has effects on the an element of the recommendations that motives you to think of thoughts. i do no longer assume she is detaching from you i think of she in spite of the incontrovertible fact that loves you however the alcohol had messed with the recommendations to lots I had a equivalent impediment have been my dad drank and abused me so I left and whilst he died he left me a observe asserting how sorry he exchange into as quickly as and that he decrease than no circumstances meant to harm me. What i'm attempting to declare is that deep interior of she maintains to be the equivalent mom and needs your help to steer her actual self out from interior of.
2016-10-01 11:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that they always say that you should be nice to your parents because they are your parents but I think when they are the one who is making your life miserable then I guess its okay if you want to stop seeing them. You have your own family now that depends on you and you need your sanity to care for them they are old enough to fend for themselves. Good luck and have a great life!
2006-08-04 02:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by WickeD_AngeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are NOT wrong! Unfortunately, your mother and brother are ill, and can't see what harm they are causing. Addiction causes people to become selfish, and unable to make proper decisions. You, however, are a strong, capable person, who CAN make proper decisions, and this is one of them. You and your children need and deserve to be happy and safe.
2006-08-04 02:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Beck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all my sympathy little darling. You did the right thing. You don't want your children to live in a very unhealthy environment. You shouldn't have a shred a regrets. I command you on your actions and decision. bravo
2006-08-04 02:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by yumyumlulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋