My friend is dealing with some heavy issues and I don't know what to say to her. Has anyone ever had an abortion and hoe did it affect you?
2006-08-04 02:24:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Alot of people will say that they are against abortion. I was until i got pregnant at 17 and was put in the position that I either had the baby and was unable to give it the life it deserved, or to have an abortion. The best thing you can do for her is to support her decision and try and think about how you would react if you were in the same position. Think about the kind of life the baby may have had. Would she able to give it everything it needed and would it ever want for anything. This was a decision that she made and I know from experience that it's not an easy one to make and it's not easy to go through alone. Just stand by her and try to help her accept that she did what she thought was best. Good luck to her and you and blessed be. V-
2006-08-04 03:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never had one, but I know women that were going for an abortion as going to the hairdresser. Other ones went but after wards were devastated.
Having seen so many different reactions, then I suggest you to listen what she wants to say and let her know that you are there if she needs you.
Some women rather do not talk about the subject, other ones tells you all the details. If is your close friend, then hold on and pay attention to the expression of your face.
Good luck, and be strong!
Fro
2006-08-04 03:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is listen to her and not be a judgmental asshole. There are so many people so quick to make judgment about abortions, which does not help your friend any. You do not have to solve life's problems for her, you just need to be there for her to talk to when she needs it.
2006-08-04 02:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by frogsandducks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend had one without asking me, It ripped me apart inside,
I was so looking forward to having a child with her.
After she had done it I could not look her in the face, and we split up.
Please tell your friend to talk to the man about this.
It happened 20 years ago and i still think about it now,
I have never had a child and now I am 43,
People say time heals, but not this.
2006-08-04 02:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Dr fuckoffen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you care about your friend but this is her row to hoe. You can't change what she did. She has to make peace within herself. Just be a shoulder to cry on.
2006-08-04 03:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am against abortion and i know the emotional risks the most you should do is back off a little and if it gets bad try sending her to a doc for it
2006-08-04 02:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't, but these women have:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
For free post-abortion counseling via email and a free post-abortion online study, I recommend http://www.HealingHearts.org
2006-08-05 02:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Don't judge her (i'm sure you're not, but just in case). That could be the worst thing to do. Just be an understanding friend and offer your shoulder when/if she needs it.
2006-08-04 02:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋