I get accused of cheating constantly, even though I'm not...it's ruining my marriage..should I get out?
2006-08-04 02:17:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jealousy is too much when he tells you about other men and you everytime you refuse to do something. I.e. "I came home and food is not ready yet. Of course...you had no time cause you had been out with other men, hadn't you?"...this sort of emotional stress will make you go crazy. If he says you're cheating on him, I advice you to file for divorce as this man ain't gonna change and I suppose you wanna lead a peaceful long life, without fights and jealousy crisis. Good luck. I know a couple like this. In the beginning of their marriage he was saying same things, accusing her of cheating on him and she stayed with him thinking it's youth to blame and that he is immature, but he will change in time. Now they have 27 yrs of marriage and he's doing same thing. It's too stressing for a woman, a worry she doesn't need. Everyone needs to live quietly. Have your own life.
2006-08-04 02:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ,that's not a reason to end your marriage!!! What you need to do sweetheart is assure your husband that you are not cheating on him!!!! Let him know that he's all the man you ever need .On the same token talk to him communication is very important.Let him know that you don't appreciate him accusing you of things that are not true!! and it hurts you when he does things like that!!! Its just a phase you two are going through !!!He knows he has a prize trophy and he doesn't even want to entertain the thought that someone else could come and take that away!!!! Just assure him that when he won his trophy(YOU) that it was a souvenir that he can keep for a lifetime!!! Best wishes!!
2006-08-04 09:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your husband that you are not cheating and that when he accuses you of it, it truly offends you. Look deeper into it....... Is he accusing you because of his own guilty conscious ? If you are unhappy in your marriage because of the situation then tell your husband that he needs to trust you or your going to leave him. Good Luck.
2006-08-04 09:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are. My hubby used to accuse me of cheating everytime I left the house without him. I found out that HE was the one that was cheating and to alleviate himself of HIS guilt he'd accuse me.
When I had had enough of the accusations - this was before his big conffession years later - I flipped it on him. When he'd say things like "who have you been with" or "who are you seeing" I would say; "Usually when one person accuses another of cheating, they are usually the one that is cheating. Care to share any information?"
2006-08-04 11:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your husband was hurt by someone else in his past. He is defiently scared of you cheating on him!!! Or maybe he is jealous because he cheated on you. The best thing to do is to tell him that he is pushing you farther and farther away on this issue and see if he will agree to counseling!! Good luck to ya, I was in that situation before and my husband has gotten alot better!!
2006-08-04 09:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by luvinmjc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say follow your heart. What he is doing is not right at all, you shouldn't have to go through that. I know what you are going through and I know that it hurts, but hang in there. Maybe try talking to him about it? and if that doesn't work, which in my experiance it didn't, then maybe give him an ultamadum, tell him that either he smartens up and you both go get marrige councelling or you are going to leave.
2006-08-04 09:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by instilleddistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband to go with you to couples counseling. If he refuses, go by yourself. If the jealously continues, tell him you can´t take it anymore, that he´s ruining your marriage and threaten to leave.
2006-08-04 09:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Double 709 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is too much when u can't do what you have to do, when he's already controlling you....when he's over protecting you... is that what he's doing?
he was jealous,then prove to him that he's wrong in anyways, that could pls him... don't let his jealousy ruin your marriage...
2006-08-04 09:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to resolve problems not run away from them...you need a mediator, since your partner doesn't trust your word..seek marriage counseling...this is fixable.
2006-08-04 09:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should seek marriage counseling. If you choose not to, then you forfeit the right to keep complaining.
2006-08-04 09:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kyra B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋