Why do married women always jump to judgement about the other woman?

Question

If women put more effort into pleasing their husbands they wouldn't have to go elsewhere. So if you spend no time with your man, refuse his sexual desires, and complain about everything he does, why are you suprised when he gets his pleasure elsewhere? Is the other woman really a whore or the only glue that keeps him from leaving you permanently?

Answer 1

belive it or not some men dont like sex the way a women does.
so a wife or a g/f couldnt.
men cheat for a reason (they cant control them selves)

Answer 2

It doesn't what kind of man it is; married, engaged, christian, etc; if he has an opportunity he will cheat. That doesn't mean he is not happy at home. That man can be getting sex every day from his wife and still stray. How many "other women" are going to have sex with a man, if he goes up to her and tells her he just wants sex, but he is happily married and things are fantastic at home? The man fabricates to the other woman so he can keep going back. In some rare instances the other woman might keep him at home for a while but it doesn't last. The other woman is a whore since women are the stronger where sex is concerned. All the other woman has to do is tell that man no. That is why women are so critical of other women. The other woman is not doing any favors to anyone and will never have a chance with that man.

The man cheating and the wife at home have nothing to do with him cheating. That man will cheat anyway so stop blaming the wife or life partner and saying that they made you do it!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I agree with you to a degree about the point you are making, however a relationship is a mutual 'sacrifice' to put it in the harshest terms. Works BOTH ways.

However, I find it disturbing that you think one should leave their spouse/especially cheat because they can't deal with the issues of commitment. WHY get married then???

You could be single and live in shack and wh0re out all day, no one cares! Just don't drag the person you're supposed to love in matrimonial bliss down with you.

When you commit to another you are sacrificing WHAT you want solely (You're not single anymore) with your significant other to come into some middle territory where you both can be happy (also relates to compatibility).

They work together as mature adults not Neanderthals to a point where a woman is satisfied with her man (or a man who is satisfied with his woman), then they both reach this 'middle territory' of compromise.

The other side of the coin is:~No person who loves or is content with their partners will complain, refuse sexual desires or more extremely "seek it elsewhere." A women can do the same instead of "complaining." I'm sure no man would like to be cheated upon.

You have chosen to be commited to your spouse, it is BOTH your responsibilities to work together and decide your own fate.
A good starting point is RESPECT, honesty, communication which all comes with love.
Everything else will follow.

If you don't want to be 'committed,' don't get married till you feel you are OR divorce asap as the other person can do way better as much as you think you can.

Hope this opens people's eyes so they can get their act together, grow up and face reality.

Answer 4

You sound like you know what your talking about anyways.. I think it depends on the situation, you can be right some women forget there husbands and in real world that can end up with husbands looking for someone else but there is also another side there are guys who just cheats even they have nice wife's for what ever reasons they have. I think if your the wife and you find out your guy cheated the first thing you would think is the girl is a whore before you think that you also have mistakes and if your the other woman make really sure the guy is not playing you and not with you because you have sex with him and don't complain with the things he is doing.

Answer 5

speaking from the married woman's point of view,Some of us do everything that is required in a marriage and then some!!! Cook ,clean make sure that man has a hot plate !!!Keep it tight in the bedroom and make sure we looking good and the kids are well kept!!! Then, another woman looks your way and sees what she ain't got and want what we have!!! Well ,I ain't giving up that easy when I have invested my time and half my life with my marriage!!! So if she wants to be a home wrecker may the best woman win but I will tell you this!!! , I ain't going down without a fight and I know I have done my all with this man!!!! Girl please and if the other woman does win the man over i,t wont be a walk in the park cuz I'm taking him all the way to the bank I want the house ,cars, dogs ,child support ,alimony when I get done with him he wont have much to offer but whats between his legs and Depending on what kind of mood Im in ,he better hope I don't do a John Bobbitt on his honorary cheating azz!!!! So that will definitely leave the other women and him with not a damn thang!!

Answer 6

Your statements are so anti-feminist, it's like the Womens' Movement never happened! So it's the wifes' fault that her hubby can't keep his thing in his pants? What about the vow exchanged, keeping thee only unto her??? Obviously that means nothing to a philanderer. And as for "the other woman", well, sweetie, until you've been in the wifes' place, don't presume to judge. There are women out there who will deliberately pursue a married man, just because he's married. That ring on their finger presents a challenge. I hate, loathe & despise poachers even more than the stupid man who commits adultery. If you shake it in front of a man, most of them are going to take a hit at it. There are some who won't - they believe in the sanctity of their marriage & they love & respect their wives enough not to act like dogs - but they're few & far between. You don't know what you're talking about & I find your remarks insulting & degrading to women & wives. I hope someday you are the wife & you have to deal with what "the other woman" has done to your marriage, your family & your life. You will be SO surprised at how you feel when the shoe is on the other foot.

Answer 7

So I assume that you are a dirty whore flapping ur nasty meatbox around because you lack any morals to know not to get involved with a married man...First off, not every married woman does that and if he has a problem within the relationship he should try to resolve it there before going to get some loose nasty skank that'll bang anything that comes within a short radius of her...The funny thing is that the man usually wouldnt leave either way, he just USES the other woman for a few bangs and tells her what she wants to hear so he can use her again and again..so in this situation does the other woman become a whore? your damn right she does because shes only good to use up and screw not have any sort of emotional attachment or relationship with..nice attempt to try and justify women who have no morals or respect for others or themselves...

Answer 8

Wheter they want to admit it or not. . . many married women who play that role desire being the other woman at times. Married women suppress but can not eliminate their INNER SLUUUUUT! This is why married women resent the other woman so much. Many married women miss the freedom and less responsible role of the other woman. Of course married women will resent the other woman as the married woman is sacrificing her personal wishes many times for the good of her marriage and her family. The other woman has no responsibilty or respect for the married woman and gets the man for free. People who mess with married people behind the spouses back are total garbage. If someone is married and wants to mess around they should be a big person and tell their spouse about it. Instead most are real cowards who are self centered and just sneak around. The other woman may have more freedom and less responsibility but most of them end up old lonely skanky whores!

Answer 9

There is never any excuse to cheat on your wife, even if she is ignoring her husband. Instead of cheating on her, he should tell her that he wants a divorce and move out. Married women assume the other woman must be a whore because they think only someone with no morals or conscience would knowingly have an affair with a married man.

Answer 10

I can answer you from both points of view, I am married to my husband NOW, but before we got married, he was already married. And yes I knew it, but unlike some men who cheated on their wives just because they could, He and his wife came to an agreement:


He caught her cheating (many times) and instead of divorcing her, he wanted to stay for the sake of their 2 young kids at the time, so they agreed to stay married, but to do their own thing. And even though she agreed to it, she still blamed me for her marriage breaking up. (Go figure).
So eventually she left him, after she her and her last Beau (who is still married to this day) decided that they would divorce their spouses and get married. After she left and filed for divorce (she had the nerve to sue him for Adultry) her boyfriend did not keep his end of the deal. So now we have been married for 5 years. Now don't get me wrong, It does not justify what I did, because it was still wrong, but I am glad that God is a merciful God, and he is just and faithful to forgive me.

Now from my view as a wife: I have never done anything to cause my husband to cheat on me, because I seen first hand the devastation and effects that caused and left on him the first time around. Trust me-- it is not a pretty site. 9 times out of 10 when a married man cheats, it is because he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He will spin some story about his wife is not there for him this that and the other when in fact, she does everything that a wife is supposed to do and more. As for the other woman, no she is not a whore, most often than not the man did not tell her he was married. We are all human and make mistakes. Now as for the part about being the glue that keeps him from leaving, I disagree, because if he wanted to leave, he wouldn't let anything or one get in his way. He is staying because he wants to stay, and because he hasn't been caught yet.

Answer 11

What you might not think about is that "some" wives do all of those things you mentioned and beyond. It doesn't matter. Some husbands just like the strange stuff and have their cake and eat it too. So, if you want to throw yourself at married men and be that "strange stuff" he desires, know that most husbands WON"T leave their wife and on occasion if they do what he did to his wife he will also do to you. So, yes, a whore is a whore always true and true and she will always get what's coming to her. No worries. Do what you please but remember their are wives out there that can go "insane" when they find out... Watch your back!!!!