We've only been married for 7 months and my husband had his mother come live with us. By the way, we have my 10 year old daughter living with us too. His mother was diagnosed as a schizophrnic. She came about a month ago and since she's been here, she caused nothing but problems. All she wants to do is fight with us and refuses to help around the house. I have to cook for her, clean up after her and her garbages she leaves all around and do her laundry. A few days ago, her and my husband got into a a heated argurment because he asked her to turn down the stereo. I was minding my own buisness, but yet, hearing every word. She was yellign saying that she was sick of our crap (but the other word) and then she turned to me and said she was especially sick of my crap (the other word again). She smokes a pack of ciggerettes in about 2 hours and demands us to get her more. My daughter has been away for the summer but she is coming back in 4 days. I found out that have 2 tumors.
2006-08-04 01:33:37 · 8 answers · asked by i4rmcali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So I found out that I have two tumors and a cyst on my ovary. I've been really sick because of this and I'm not getting any help from my husband and definately not my mother-in-law. I don't want my daughter exposed to all the drama of having my mother-in-law here so I don't know what to do. My husband can be a real jerk (oher word) but I want to make our marriage work. On the other hand, I want to leave as long as his mother is here.
2006-08-04 01:38:28 · update #1
its time to put your mother-in-law into a nursing home. you don't have to put up with her crap and neither does your husband or your daughter. your marriage is more important than his abusive mother
2006-08-04 01:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard enough having a parent or in-law in your home, when everyone gets along. My wife took care of my Grand Mother, I'll spare all the details, and say she was treated badly, and I didn't know much about it until she past away. My wife kept her cool and didn't make my life miserable.
Your husband is married to you and not his mother, you are not her door Matt, and shouldn't have to be subjected to her abusiveness in your own home.
I'm an ex-smoker, my philosophy always was to anyone else who smoked, your old enough to smoke, your old enough to buy them.
You husband needs to remove her, but you have to stay neutral as any conflict between them, caused by you, will always come up in the future
If he is not willing to back you on this, your life will only get more miserable, you may want to remove yourself in the long run. Your choice, but don't procrastinate as it won't get any better.
Good Luck
2006-08-04 08:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by John F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schizophrenics belong on medication or in an institution. Gotta say that your husband's decision to let his mother live with you all is not sound. Those things need to be discussed and negotiated. If it was me, her behavior would be a deal-breaker and I would absolutely not expose you daughter to that behavior. She needs to learn that relationships between adults does not include your mother in law's attitude, language, and behavior. If the MIL is sick of your crap, the response should be, "Don't let the door hit you in the *** on your way out."
2006-08-04 08:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your husband to get her a$$ out of there, I don't give a rats a$$ what her problems are. They can be dealt with in a different manner. She is not your responsibility. Put your foot down. You have to get her out of there before your daughter gets home. This was extremely selfish of your husband, and if he don't get rid of his momma, I'd leave,..for good.
2006-08-04 08:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's living in your house--she needs to be respectful, or at least civil, or get out. You didn't take her in to be her slave. Tell your husband if she doesn't clean up her act, she has to leave. If he says it's his house too, make him clean up after her. She may be mentally ill, but that doesn't have to ruin your life.
2006-08-04 08:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree she needs to get out of your house because she's going to eventually cause bigger problems with you and your new hubby talk to him and tell him that if he doesn't take care of the problem then your are going to go stay else where!!! Your mother-in-law would'nt like you leaving cause she would'nt have anyone to cater for her and your huband probably would'nt be pleased doing it good luck
2006-08-04 08:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Groover_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay you did say for better or for worst,you know when people say these words they never think of the worst,did you? and he let you have your daughter their ,did"t he.so now you are sick,is he thinking about the same thing you are thinking,leaving,i think both of you should sit down and talk this thing out,if both are committed to this marriage.
2006-08-04 09:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by timmsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave and not put up with it. He won't take you seriously unless you actually show him that you will leave.
2006-08-04 08:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋