Do women understand the "Burden to Provide" that men have? Or do they think it is ridiculous?

Question

I am guessing you think it is ridiculous. I am referring to when a man gets married and even in this day and age providing is core to a man's sense of self (the four P's) and that men are the safety net that needs to catch everything when it falls.

Answer 1

Unfortunately, no. Women do not understand men have natural protective and provisional instincts toward women, just as they have such toward children.

Mothers who want to provide for and protect their children are not belittling them, but merely doing what nature demands. In the same respect, men who want to provide for and protect women are not belittling them, but also merely acting according to their natural instincts.

Answer 2

I think its ridiculous, because I am a woman (married) who feels that she must provide. I am very independat, have had a job since I was twelve, paid my way for everything, and now have trouble with the fact that he makes more than me and I am not providing $ equal to his.
I don't expect anyone to provide for me. I was once asked ina job interview why I thought I needed to have a job at all, since I had a husband who had a job (older woman asked me this). I told her I couldn't imagine not having a job. I really can't. I wouldn't feel right having him work all the time while I sat around and did fun stuff all the time. When the apartment is really dirty, I sometimes see the draw of doing the "stay- at home" thing, but know I couldn't handle it. I saw an article about a month ago I couldnt find again when i went searching for it, but it said stay at home mother should make the equivalent of $60,000/ year ( i think that was the amount?) but they don't get paid, so what to do?

Answer 3

I completly understand it. If a man comes from a well rounded home (even if it is a simgle parent home) then this should be a good thing. It really shouldn't been seen as a buden, but as a responsibility. The women who end up with no man can not fully blame the man. They really need to look at the big picture. Sometimes the man wants that responsibility, craves it even, and becasue of situations cannot provide it.

And before ANYONE dares yell at me for what I just said. My father and mother split when I was 11 becasue they could not live together, but to this day my father will bend over backwards if I need anything from him.

Answer 4

Ok, it's not so much that men HAVE that "burden to provide" it's that they THINK they do. My boyfriend is that old fashioned guy who ALWAYS has to pay for everything.. dinner, movies, my car repairs, he'll even go grocery shopping with me and pay for all my stuff, even though we don't even live together. When we go out for a drink, he wants to pay for it and he wants to be the man income source provider once we're married. I understand why he thinks that way, but I don't think that it's necessary. sometimes the only way I get to pay for soemthing is if I pay before he gets a chance or say straight out "im paying" and even then, he says he doesn't like it when I pay. It's that male instinct of being the "head of the household" provider for his family that his dad/grandpa/ and so on were. In today's society though, more and more women are getting the better paying jobs and getting out in the work force to provide for their families. It's almost necessary in today's extremely expensive society. I understand why my bf feels he has to support and provide for me, but more women today are perfectly happy sharing the bill if not paying for it all. The more independent our society becomes, especially women, the more women like to show that we can make it on our own, with or without a man.

Answer 5

Nowadays it takes 2 people to provide for a family. If only the man was out working the family would be struggling (unless he is making $100,000+ per year, which is very unlikely, the average salery is $50,000). Women also carry the burden of supporting the family (financially and mentally)!!!!

Answer 6

"Burden to Provide"... hmmm.
Boys are taught that they are to provide for wife and kids and if you can then that's wonderful. But times have changed. Live in the now.
It takes two incomes to support a family in this world, it's a fact that we all live with.
I don't think it ridiculous, that's the way they're taught, but I also live in the here and now. I work to help support the household and don't have a problem with it.
You shouldn't feel bad or guilty if she has to work, it only makes a better life for both of you.

Answer 7

I'm a woman and I think that no burden should be on just one partner in a marriage. Both my husband and I work and we share the responsibilities that come with having a family, jobs, etc. We share the bills and the chores. We both provide for our family.

Answer 8

If you have ANY issue with the "burden to provide" then you'll recognize it as BS and work with feminists as well as some parts of the GLBT movement to do away with social gender conditioning. If you have no problem with it, then why ask, as it's apparantly not that much of a "burden"?

Answer 9

It isn't ridiculous at all. I think it is nice that my hubby wants to and needs to provide for our family. That is the mark of a real man... he is willing to do whatever it takes to make sure that we are all taken care of. Not that I rely on him to take care of me, but I appreciate knowing he would if it were necessary.

Answer 10

OH PLEASE!! My Mom was a single parent AGAINST her wishes. Dad just walked out. Do you think he understands?
I don't understand a man's "Burden to Provide", because I've always supported myself. Do you also believe that young girls should be married right out of high school?