My superior and my partner(colleague who is also my senior in terms of length of service) is having an affair. Well.. I know it is non of my business and I really don't care. I love my job and hope to advance further but it seems that my partner gets all the attention, opportunities etc.. Initially I thought I was just too sensitive but recently my other colleagues of the same level notice that there are favourtism going on.. (but not the ones who are higher ranking than my superior) Some even asked me why didn't I get equal opportunities, not wanting to complicate matters, I would just brush off their questions or just act clueless abt it... I felt so depressed thinking abt it. Especially in some areas I know I'm more capable and have so much to offer to the company. I would appreciate if anybody could suggest any resonable solution to my problem. Thanks in advance.
2006-08-04 01:03:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
From what I c in your description, I dun think there is anything u can do. If u exposed the office romance btwn your partner and your superior, others will think u backstabbed yr partner just to get the promotion. It is very diffcult to do anything at this stage unless your partner and yr superior breakoff otherwise there is always this practice of favourtism.
My advice to u is tt u can look for other opportunity in the same line if u want to have a career advancement. Remember dun ever exposed the office romance happening in yr office otherwise u will be treated as a backstabber. Leave this task to somebody else.
2006-08-04 01:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realise the best thing to do about office romance is to completely ignore it. It is a fact that some people will completely be favoured than others and this is the way in the office. Whether romance is involved or not, they are those people who will get the promotion. The best way to get noticed in the office is to act like you are doing and good job. That is what most managers did and they got their jobs. As long as you can accomplish your targets and pass your performance appraisal, know that good things are on the way. Beside after a while you can write a letter stating that you think you need a promotion since (this is where you define your skills and capabilities to regard to your the post being sort.) you mention all your accomplishment you have achieved
2006-08-04 08:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you consider that they are having an affair if both of them are not married?
well love do florish in many aspect of life, just as long as you keep doing what you think is right, I guess, even if they are both married and having and affair and doing all the wrong things in life, it is their life and it is god's job to decree the punishment if any.
Look on the easier side of life
I have seen affairs that flourish and those that died. I have seen how affairs has become a domestic quarrel to those that ended up in marriages.
Life is complex. do not be quick to judge them as it is really not our job.
regarding opportunities and attention, I guess, you should be measuring your performance, eq etc and it is sometimes not just because they are waking up in the same bed.
Believed me, management knows more than you think but usually they keep a blind eye if both are still performing.
Look on the brighter side of life.
I once asked someone whom is having an affair in the colleague ( now both couple husband and wife) and they said one thing which strike me.
Yes, both of them have to work twice as hard to ensure that they do not get the feeling that there are favouritism despite all. some small minded people still think that there are favourtism.
My Love, take it easy. do what you think it is right and comfortable
2006-08-06 21:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This world is like that, there is no fairness regardless in work place, school,family, friend;etc. You have to accept this, what I call "faith". Don't instigate by others because they are watching a show, just tolerate it. After all, is not so easy to make a living. Bear with it and move on!
2006-08-04 08:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lola,
First of all I should ask you to be relax,you have very nice option to deal with,get introvert in your job,look our job/duty is our first priority and your weapon is silence/ignorance ...they will realise when you stopped to noticed them..I think the best way in this situation don't be attentioned with them...things will going smoother with you in bit moments.
Good luck.
welcome your reply.
2006-08-04 08:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋