as my marriage is love *** arranged...he told me before marriage... i will stop having liquor the movement we get marry and we got married 2 years ago even till now he did not stop taking alcohol..i have been telling him so many days to stop that ..but i faild in that...and i know that before marriage he had an affair and sex with some girl ..and i told him iam not intersed what u have down before marriage.....and he know very well that i did not had any sex or affair with any one ....last moth in one party he had shared his wine glass with another lady..i mean he told that he dont mind sharing other ladies wine glasss..which i really hate..plz tell me what should i do now...
2006-08-04 00:51:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all i can say is "My deepest condolence to you". Hope you survive because personally i don't think he will ever change., You either live with it or say "Good-bye"
2006-08-04 00:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite whatever promises you made togather you have signed-off on his behavior by not doing anything about it. A promise that has no consequences won't be kept and obviously your discomfort isn't a consequence to him. If you want him to change you have to make it clear to him that not changing has a price. Treat this contract with him as importantly as your marriage because he isn't giving you the respect he needs to to maintain your marriage and you won't have one without it. Give him a reasonable timeline to quit or moderate his drinking and other behavior, be fair in what can be done about the problem. Hear any and all suggestions he has to solve the problem and set that timeline togather. Make it clear that if he fails you will leave him. If he fails Leave Him.
2006-08-04 08:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My understanding is that you may go to some other place for some time on tour. The monotony in life and routine work made you feel more uncomfortable.
Make the mind of your hisnband and arrange some good money to spend l during tour. Enjoy the every new moment of your life.
2006-08-04 07:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.
Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
2006-08-04 07:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WARNING! WARNING! WARNING! The man is going over the line and you need to cut his foot off. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. The drinking if it's not out of control, or he doesn't act like a slobbering baboon can be dealt with in a structured manner, you can get tools to deal with a would be alcoholic. The pussyfooting with sharing his glass with a nother woman, NOPE AIN'T GONNA CUT IT, THAT DOG DON"T HUNT, BITE HIS LEG OFF!
2006-08-04 08:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband doesnt sound nice. But you new what he was like when you married him. he didnt stop then hes not likely to stop now. he shouldnt taunt you with the woman he was with before marriage its cruel. He shouldnt share drinks with any one else who knows what disease they have. I think you arfe sad and should get out of that marriage, you have a right to be happy, your husband will never change and honestly he doesnt sound faithful but that s my opinion.
2006-08-04 08:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about trust and respect. If he cnt give you that then he doesn't deserve you. Divorce him, dont waste your love on this no good, cheating fool. True love exists, you just have to wait for it. You deserve a gentleman who will treat you like a lady, so forget about him. There is life after divorce.
2006-08-04 07:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, easier said than done huh., Tell you what does he do most of the the providing for the family? Do you have some form of college behind your name? If not carry your *** to school ASAP on him, ignore his stupid behavior just enough to better yourself then make like a banana and spit
2006-08-04 08:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is for life or for ever in Africa but in the western world it is a contract.
See what you do!! Call him to order in a nice way and tell him what and how you feel. i am sre he willlistern.
best of luck.
2006-08-04 07:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by ineem20012005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thing u shld keep a watch on him wan him and after alll this give him divorce
2006-08-04 08:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by pritam_hii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋