I dont know what to do anymore. I am lost?

Question

I have been going through a rough time. I just lost my dad not to long ago and I also lost my grandpa. I l haven’t work for 2 years now. I spent the entire last year helping family. Right now I’m still helping my family but i just can’t seem to find a job. I’m so discourage. I try not to lose hope but its hard, I applied for jobs where I am more than qualified and I don’t even get a call for interview. I have two bachelors (1 in Marketing and 1 bachelor in business and system analysis).

I’m not sure of myself anymore. I’m not even sure if I will be able to get back on the work force anymore. Mom tells me not to loose hope and not give up. She tells me not to destroy what I have built. Lately I wonder if I even built something and if something was built it is probably destroyed for good. I can’t sleep anymore like I use to, I’m fighting not to fall in a depression. I am a mess right now. I prayed like crazy for help but no answers. I prayed for help for my family and that were answer

But the prayers I did for myself are just ignored. :-(

Answer 1

go to http://www.emichoice.com they are currently hiring marketing assistant and no resume required.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry life is being so hard on you. Strange how that works, eh?-having prayers answered that you pray for someone else while prayers for yourself remain unanswered.
Maybe it's time for a completely different career choice? I spent 9 years holding office jobs, from novice to corporate level. The past 2 years I've been working a low-key job, but occupationally I am at my wit's end. I enrolled to begin Massage Therapy school which starts next month. Completely different path, completely out of the ordinary within my circles of people. I figured that what I'm used to sure isn't working, so I'll go the route of "completely different." I'm excited about it because in just one year I won't have to be at this job anymore. I know that's not comparable to your circumstance; I haven't lost anyone close to me, so I can't imagine your pain. But, it's just an idea: maybe this is fate's way of telling you to seek out another path. If no doors are open in your field maybe you've just gotta look for another field. Meanwhile don't stop praying, and if you're going stir-crazy from not working, try joining some kind of social event. Good luck...

Answer 3

A few years ago when I was out of the workforce for too long. I tried looking for 3rd shift job just to be back in the work force and I was hired. I did it for a year and now I work days. No one wants the 3rd shift because its hard working all night they think. It is actually easier and more peaceful. There are lots of places that need night work. Hospitals hotels to mention a couple. Good luck I wish the best for you and keep your head up and think positive.

Answer 4

I am sorry for what you are going through, I am getting over a similar situation. I lost both parents 8 months apart and had much of the same feelings of dispair that you have.First your mom is right...dont give up , it is completly normal for the grieving process to take years to work through. every thing youre going through is a result of compounded grief.I myself second guessed everything about my life, its because death has a way of forcing us to examine our own lives. By the way I lost my parents in o3 and am just now getting back on track
People tell you to let go and move on but its a very difficult thing to do , I had to reconsile my grief before i could move on. I did this by forcing myself to confront my grief, i took old photos and my dads ww2 memoribilia and just stared at those items and thought about how wonderful of parent sthey were and soon the tears came , it seemed as though i cried off and on for days ..but it was cathartic..i felt as a boulder was lifted off meand i realised tha t by not letting go i was holding myself back. you see letting go does not mean forgetting them ..it means accepting that the are gone but never forgotten. You also said you are fighting to stay out of depression, I hope im not being too bold...but by everything youve written...youre already there, I didnt think I was depressed either until my doctor told me...my suggestion ..help
yourself to get back on track and get some anti depressents
lexapro worked wonders for me. I didnt realize how my old self was buried aunti the antidepressants began to work and the man i used to be began to come back.I was only on them short term but thet helped immensly.All of your issues will be resolved you need time and to realize that indeed you have built something ..something you can be proud of..and to let it go away would be depriving yourself of a wonderful life you have worked hard to build.Your discouragement about the job situation is being compounded by the grieving process.Grief will heal/pass and is very profound while you are going through it bu as profound as it is ..its also temporary...the rest of your life is not
life is as good after grief as it was before...grief is a temporary bump in a very long road....listen to your mom...shr is right...this time. there is so much more i would like to say about this as it mirrors my own experience...but i hope ive helped in some way

Answer 5

Your mom is right! Keep praying dont give up. I know how you feel. Sometimes lately I wonder why things happen the way they do. Theres always someone worse off than you are. I could go on and on and on about things happening in my life but it would fill up this page. Sometimes I sit on my porch and I think, and I talk to God. I know he hears me. A sparrow came up my bird feeder then the scripture came to my mind.... His eye is on the sparrow. They dont worry about things and God takes care of them.

Sometimes things happen in our lives so that we learn to lean on him. You know I keep telling myself, I've been through other things that Jesus has brought me through and he will bring me through this. I do believe that he will bring you through your troubles too if you just let go and let GOD.

Sometimes I get into positions that the only thing I can do is let go and let God. I will say a prayer for you. Get as many people praying as you can. I want you to read this.... Hang it up somewhere to look at again.

As children bring their broken toys
with tears for us to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God because he was my friend
But then instead of leaving him
in peace to work alone
I hung around and tried to help
with ways that were my own.
Atlast I snatched them back and cried
How could you be so slow?
Child he said,
What could I do?
You never let go....

I dont know who wrote that poem but its true this is what we have to do. Give it to God. Everythings gonna be ok!

Answer 6

Some of gods greatest gifts are unanswered prayers... someones looking out for you... dont worry, youll be back on track in a blink of an eye

-arielle

Answer 7

u know something, i am also in almost same situation. but still i have'ny lost my faith n i am still trying. i'll suggest u too to try n try again. i am sure u'll succeed

Answer 8

oh wat the f@$%. ur moms totally right. and dont fall in depression its worst thing. dont give up. life's short and full with beautiful. so try to live for yourself and.. maybe there's a chance waiting for you behind ur door.. but dont give up. at least for ya mom. good luck

Answer 9

u should try for callcentre job although it might not be permanant,
atleast u will have something in hand temporary.