I am recently divorced, my ex-wife and I had an argument that led to me moving out in Oct and now divorced at the end of May (sad but true). Anyway, my ex had work done in the house and she started dating the guy and 3 weeks ago she married him after knowing him for only 7 months. I love this woman, she is the love of my life, her marriage to this "predator" is the biggest mistake and a desperate move by a desperate woman, she was wounded and this guy took advantage of her fragile state.
I need to do something here..what can I do? Can I end this marriage? Is that a stupid thing? If so, How?
2006-08-04 00:27:16 · 16 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't initiate the divorce, she did. When I left I only wanted a few days for things to cool down. I never thought she would find someone else, this is unreal...this guy came into the house to do work and destroyed this marriage....I didn't want it to end, I just wanted her to apologize for what she did wrong (I apologized to her!!). This guy took advantage of her weakened state, he saw the house and all the stuff and told her what she wanted to hear. I didn't even know she was dating this guy until a month ago, and then they married a week after that.
2006-08-04 06:23:52 · update #1
Sorry, mate. But unless she told you that she's not happy, there is nothing you can do. That part of your life is over and you have to accept that she has moved on. Maybe she was desperate and maybe she was wounded but she made her own decisions without your input. She won't need it now! I hope that you take a look at yourself and understand why you need to save her. You should have been there for her during your own marriage. I'm not being judgemental but understand what things are/were going on with you that you couldn't provide her with the things she needed. And sorting that out will help you be the right kind of man for the next woman that comes along in your life! Best of luck!!
2006-08-04 00:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love her - but you also say SHE was wounded. Are you the one who wounded her? If that answer is yes, I would say she most likely could care less about your feelings anymore. She has moved on with her life and maybe she has made a huge mistake. I don't think you're the one to "be her knight in shining armor" and rescue her from the predator. I guess I'm thinking if YOUR marriage to her had been better, you wouldn't have any of these problems and neither would she.
Maybe I'm missing something but you're divorced from her. Any "control" you may have had over her life is over and you need to realize it. You'll have to love her from a distance.
2006-08-04 00:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by cat lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't love this man and was just showing you that she was getting over you and moving on. That should teach you a lesson in how to handle arguements in the future by not doing drastic moves. Time will tell and you have to just back off and let her be married. If she still loves you she will eventually get divorced because that marriage is doomed. She really doesn't know tha t man and was on the rebound from your hurting her.
2006-08-04 01:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still friends with this woman speak to her. Altough your marriage did not work out you can still be friends with her. If you think that whatever you say to her she will not listen because she has been hurt, make sure someone close to her will speak to her, just to make her see that this person she is with now is not good for her and is taking her for a ride... if there is anyone else who shares your opinion about this new guy in her life.
Otherwise, if she will not listen, let her be! She has to experience what this guy is to realise that he is not the man for her. If you love her so much as you say, she will come back to you and you can take her when she realises that you would be better for her than this person.
Good Luck.
2006-08-04 01:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this woman then why didn't you gave time to your marriage. You say she was wounded and aren't you responsible for that? And if she find solace in that "predator's" arms then why you are worried? Mind it she is no more your wife or love.Ending their marriage is not your cup of tea, now let them live happily and you concentrate on your life. Marriage is not a game that even after doing a foul you can re-enter esp. when your game partner has left .
2006-08-04 00:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by n t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think she wants out. Why would she not know how to get out if she wanted to. She knew for you. Be glad you don't have to pay spousal support and move on. What possible argument subject would cause you to move out if you did not want to end it anyway. Unless of course it was I'm doing the carpenter and dumping you. When you left it was over. Unfortunately you skipped a couple reconciliation tries first. Get over it move on.
2006-08-04 00:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ... you are no longer part of the marriage. Why divorce her when you love her? Next time be more persistent and loving in your marriage. Look forward.
2006-08-04 01:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to respect her decisions.. she made her mistake and its her life, not yours... so move on wif ur lyff.. dun intefere in her lyf cuz she might nt b accepting to u anymore.. dats y ur divorced...! love is about caring so i believe dat if u care for her, juz let her go.. unless she nids ur help
2006-08-04 00:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by curious_ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she was wounded. What did you do to her. That would help deciding on an answer for you.
2006-08-04 00:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude move on. She has someone else maybe you should find someone too. She is no longer your concern
2006-08-04 00:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋