he's divorced and my brothers' friend. I'm so in love with him and I know that he loves me too, nevertheless, he doesn't want us to give a chance. What should I do?
2006-08-03 23:37:11 · 28 answers · asked by Sorely the scot lass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No he doesn't have any children
2006-08-03 23:48:18 · update #1
His ex-wife and him divorced 5 years ago because she got an affair with her boss. I didn't know at this moment...
2006-08-04 00:07:09 · update #2
The age difference does not matter if you both don't mind, but from what you are saying he doesn't want to start a relationship with you so there is no point in trying to pursuit one. It may be that he just deosn't want to start anything just now, if you are both meant to be then it will happen eventually. I wouldn't put my life on hold though. If you do meet someone else it might bring him to his senses but it could be too late then as you might feel differently as you will have met someone else. Tell him how you feel and ask if he will change his mind if he still says no then I think you have to accept that and move on. Good luck and I hope it all turns out the way you want.
2006-08-03 23:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by missieclass 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 14 year age difference is a sizeable difference. I respect his reservations about getting into a serious relationship with you. I think that is is best to find someone closer to your own age, because then you are more likely to be able to share common life experiences and compliment each other in many ways.
2006-08-04 01:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely the answer to this is obvious... My brother has always told me NONE of his mates can date me .... that is of course they marry me!!!
Im affraid thats what Big Brothers are like....
Although from a girls prospective its sounds like there is far far too much baggage there to strat a nice comfortable relationship with this dude... in fact i think you would be better off just supporting him as a friend for now until things have settled down.. If things between you are still burning under the surface then take it slow..
Personally i would steer well clear love.. It sounds like to much heart ache...
2006-08-04 00:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesn't want to be with you just accept it, those are his feelings and you must respect his thoughts. Just move on things like this happen in life and you have to live with it. If his divorced then he cannot be together with you or marry you because he will commit adultery. read matthew 18 vs 19 in the bible. Jesus teaches about devorce.
2006-08-04 00:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by questionaire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with that relationship. I'm 20, my boyfriends 32! We are so happy and in love, why risk eternal happiness with someone purely because of age difference? Ask him what is stopping him from wanting a relationship with you, talking and understanding always helps.
2006-08-03 23:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by nievelittlegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both have crossed the teens and can think maturely. Hope your brother is senior to you. That makes a matured threesome. You first confront & confirm your would be's intentions. If he is also ready, you both talk to your brother. Some resistance may be there but if you can put your side well, he will agree to that.Allthe best!!
2006-08-03 23:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably afraid of what your brother would say, but last I saw, you were 24 years old, so that does make you an adult where I come from, so I would go for it, but I would do this with caution out of respect for his feelings toward offending your brother
2006-08-04 00:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by Michael_D_Miller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was 14 when you were born.
When you are 40 he will be 54.
When you are 51 he will be 65 and retired.
When you are 65 he will be 79 and probably dead.
2006-08-04 00:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can some body love you and can't give your relationship a chance he is a loser,move on he just come out ofd divorce dont force him to a relationship because you will end up getting hurt.
2006-08-03 23:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Faith Nelisiwe N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want it then leave it, don't force the issue, besides the point the age gap is huge, lots of things could hamper the relationship such as babies! career decisions! Holidays! and if it all goes wrong you lose a lover but your brother loses a friend!
2006-08-03 23:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by andylegendoneill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋