Here is the problem... i ahve 2 children with this guy. we have been together for 4 years. last june he moved out and in with another woman which i didnt find out about until about 2 months after he left. Just left me and his children. But he takes care of his kids, sees them everyday, and he is a good father. Here is the problem.. he still sees me too. we have sex anywhere from 2-4 times a week. and it is great sex. better than when we were together. i know he was cheating on me with this other girl so now i give up the booty because i am the other woman now. it is exciting to me to be the other woman for once. she has no idea. i have never seen her and she has never seen me. i think she is stupid because its in her face about us but i dont know . i mean the times he comes over to get some is like 3 or 4 am. he is not here to see his kids at that time. What should i do. I would luv to tell her but it would mess up mine and his relationship. what to do?
2006-08-03 23:10:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good sex under these circumstances usually fades soon enough....he's just having his cake and eating it too.
He is using the both of you, and while you may feel some bit of revenge, step back and look at the big picture.
This man is a player, and playing both you women just ain't right.
I know you got history with him, but where is this story going.....do you want him back? Do you think in your heart you could forgive him? Someday you got to look at this and decide if he is just holding you back from moving on and finding yourself someone better, someone to be with and be there for you ALL the time, not just for a 3am booty call......
Good luck with this....
2006-08-03 23:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? This guy seems to be out of his mind! He first cheats on you and now he's cheating on her! Please, where's your morality? Im sure you can have sex ..commited sex with a much better and commited man.. I dont think its right that you're entertaining him just coz you like the feel of sex u share with him. Ask him to go suck a rotten egg. About telling the other woman, its better that u let her discover it sooner or later, and get her to fix it up with him. She's the one who acted "the other woman" in the first place when she shouldnt have.
Be honest and responsible. A little bit of maturity from your side would do some good.
2006-08-04 06:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by maybelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is having his cake and eating t too. I'm sure he thinks that both of you women are completely idiots and laughing his balls off. He gets the best of both worlds now. he is not with you any longer so no emotional ties or financial ties to you but sex whenever he wants . No man could be luckier. please get out of this mess before it hurts you and your children cos when he finds a woman to replace you u will be left with nothing bt a bitter feeling and then you wil feel cheated and sucidal. please dont do this to yourself . It will for now seem to you like you are taking revenge on the other woman but it is you who is more emotionally attached to him and the one who is most likely to get hurt in this deal.
I hope you start thinking with ur mind and not ur sex soon at least for the sake of ur chidren who need their mom to be strong for them
2006-08-04 06:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by agonychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you thinking? every time you have sex with your ex, your having sex with his new woman too! how are you gonna feel if you catch something?... you need some counseling if you like your relationship this way, and by the way, how did you feel when you first found out about the other woman, obviously there are some issues here, it seems to me that you are only trying to pay back the hurt you were dealt by this other woman when your relationship ended.
2006-08-04 06:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH Honey....this isn't fair....you shouldn't let him do this to you. Of course the sex is better......you are doing it for revenge. You need to cut the ties w/ him...let him be a daddy to your kids, but stop letting him use you. That is what and all he is doing. If he loves you, he would be just with you.
You need to stop being the 3 am booty call and find someone that loves you.
2006-08-04 06:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you're already aware he doesn't love you, and he's just using you as his sex machine. I mean, if you like being used, who am I to say break off the relationship. Just hope you're not gonna need a real man by your side, coz you might be so emotionally ruined to handle one by then.
2006-08-04 06:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by lori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's making out like a bandit, your just an idiot getting used. But if thats what your into then oh well. Its not that your the other woman now its just that your easy.
-NmD!
2006-08-04 06:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as u are getting what u want , who cares about her, dont screw up a good thing, now if someone else were to slipp up and say something, , well that might be ok,, as long as u still get laid,
2006-08-04 08:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me he is not suffering one bit he is getting a$$ from two women you need to move on and find someone else and get some child support and make him suffer a lil
2006-08-04 07:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he cheated on you,how could u ever sleep with him again? u should tell her to break them up and punish him. its all a thrill to him as well if you were still with him he would still be cheating on you. you are to nice and forgiving.u deserve better.
2006-08-04 06:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋