In previous q&a i said that I'm married for six years with my wife and that we had 10x sex in our marraige. so after many comments from people like you all, i finally decided to tell her i wanted a divorce. she did not took it well and I felt realy bad about the whole thing( see previous q&a). should I proceed or again try and work things out?
2006-08-03 22:10:42 · 6 answers · asked by spookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your issue is you feel bad and then you second guess yourself. She knows this by now. I think you know what I am meaning so I don't need to explain further.
You two need to seek marriage counseling and she does need to seek a sex therapy to figure out why she doesn't like sex nor doesn't want to be with you sexually. If she is not willing to go, that means she is not serious about working this marriage out to meet your needs nor the marriages.
Even if you do not divorce her, the issue will NOT go away. You need to take the steps and if she isn't willing to met half way with you to make things work, then she already gave you her answer on the marriage itself.
As far as you getting married to her, you should of known she was not interested in sex. If you didn't, you two shouldn't of got married until you two knew eachother well enough. This is information you needed. Especially when it comes to kids. Is she or you interested in having kids? If so, only way besides not having sex is getting implanted.....
I don't know if she is lying to you about her being molested, raped or anything. She might be ashamed or hurt by it. Maybe reason for her crying. However, if she hasn't told you now in 6 years. You two need extensive marriage counseling for this to even float cuz you both are sinking. Can't float if you are trying to save it. She has to too.
Before divorce. Seek counseling asap. If not, you got the answer to this issue in my opinion.
2006-08-03 22:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want a divorce then yes, you need to bring up the issue again. If you truly do not love your wive, then take the steps to set you both free. Sex is important in a marriage. If it's not there, someone will eventually stray from their vows. If you do love your wife, you should try counseling before you divorce her. If that doesn't work, then you've done your best. Good Luck to you.
2006-08-04 01:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do u mean "She did not take it well " Did she say she was sorry or things like that.. Anyway u should follow your heart and head as you know her better and you know what she said. If you feel she was honest - give it another shot.
2006-08-03 22:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your marriage more seriously.
2006-08-03 22:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to hell or somewhere where people care about your stupid issues
2006-08-03 22:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant answer that for you, u need to follow your heart....
2006-08-03 22:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋