My partner told me on tuesday that it was over between us. I have just gone through a major heart op and he has been tking over all of my resposnsibilities. We rowed due to a confession i made but he agreed i did the right thing by telling him. He has been there for me 100%. I personally think he is exhausted from recent events with me and was looking for a row. Should i just give him space to calm down and rest or accept its over. We were fine up until the row but i do think he is finding it hard to cope and was just looking for an excuse to have a row. Any suggestions??
2006-08-03 22:06:42 · 9 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The confession was to do with a fling a had with one of the rugby players in the local pub team he has just signed up with to start playing with. I dint want him to find out from him as i know this man is a womaniser and my partner would confess the same to me to avoid future embarassment.
2006-08-03 22:17:14 · update #1
Sorry, the fling was 7 years ago!!!
2006-08-03 22:17:59 · update #2
If it was before you met him, I think he will get over it. I think he might just need an emotional break. Give it a few weeks so he has time to miss you. Then call him and tell him you love him and you want to work things out. He will come back if he loves you.
2006-08-03 22:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Erin M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't told us what that confession was. How can we possibly put ourselves in his place when we don't know?
All I can say is that clearly this will have been a stressful time for the two of you and one part of him will have wanted to run away. In that case, you might want to give it time and talk to him. But without knowing what you told him, I can't really say.
2006-08-04 05:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you've gone through so much, then maybe he just needs a break, and hopefully things will work out, but try not to get your hopes up, you never know, it may really be over. I would give him a little time, and try talking to him again.
2006-08-04 05:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by jensarquist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cant cope anymore and just needs space... give him some time... after that, if it doesnt work out then you have got to accept that its over.
2006-08-04 05:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just underwent a major heart operation, huh.?
that alone is a major life change for you.
are you under stress over this?
after heart surgery?
here's what you have to do.
ask yourself if you are better off with him
or without him.
if you want it to be over
it's over.
or
make him make up his mind.
give him a 24 hour ultimatum.
he's in or out.
stick with your decision and don't mourn over it.
and move on!
Good luck
2006-08-04 05:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have been through a lot. Give him time and space. Do something nice for him.
2006-08-04 05:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET HIM LEAVE AND NEVER LET HIM BACK YOU GET STARTED ON YOUR NEW LIVE ASAP DONT LOOK BACK IF YOU DONOT DO THAT YOUR LIFE WILL BE ALL FUC@ UP FOR A LONG TIME AND YOU WIILL GO BACK TOGHTER BUT LATER HE LEAVE LATER ON IN LIVE AND YOU HAVE TO GO 4 OR 5 YEARS LATER AND START OVER THEN SO JUST START IT NOW DONT LOOK BACK YOU BE SO MUCH BETTER FOR THAT#############3 -JERRY-------------
2006-08-04 05:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by do it good 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a row?
and what was the confesion?
2006-08-04 05:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GiVe hIm sOmE sPaCe...LeT hIm ReSt bUt hE sTiLl lUvS u...BuT wUt iS a RoW
2006-08-04 06:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by wuzup214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋