I have no desire to hurt either my wife or my family, and want to be friends with this new girl as I am having fun and want to continue our friendship. There has been no kissing or the like, but I gave her a hint that I needed to tell her something next week and I want to be as nice as possible, since I like her and I think she likes me. We get along very well, but I don't want to push it to the next level, but be able to hang out every once in a while with my new friend.
2006-08-03 21:55:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOW IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT JUST FRIENDSHIP .. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER .IT MIGHT LEAD UP TO MORE THEN WHAT YOU THINK YOU WANT.. THE NICEST THING YOU CAN DO IS BE HONEST.. AND IF SHE NEVER TALKS TO YOU AGAIN THEN SHE MUST OF LIKED YOU IN A DIFFERENT WAY.. AND IF IT'S LIKE THAT THEN SHE WOULD BE A WAST OF A FRIEND ANYWAYS..JUST MAKE SURE SHE RESPECT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE ,ALSO YOU NEED TO ALWAYS RESPECT YOUR WIFE..BECAUSE SHE CHOOSE YOU TO SPEND THE REST OF HER LIFE WITH.. AND THAT SHOULD SHOW MEAN A LOT TO YOU,
2006-08-04 01:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by daughterslove3 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
First of all, simple question, do you have a ring on your finger?
If you hadn't, then it's no wonder she might think you're available.
HOWEVER, if you have, women tend to notice these things so she probably knows already.
The best thing to do is to tell her. I don't know her so I'm not sure of the right way to do it but you do. If you need help, ask your wife as women perceive things in women better.
That's for this question but if I may offer a word of advice about this relationship?
Proceed with caution and make sure your wife knows about this relationship and what you do with her. That way, even if nasty or ignorant well-meaning friends point out your friend, your wife will be fine with it.
Also, do not disregard your wife's feelings if she gets jealous. Yes, it seems weird or unreasonable at times, but remember, women notice signals and behaviors that men don't. Just like if your wife had a guy friend, you might feel the same way if the guy friend sends the wrong signal.
All the best and hope everything works out. :)
2006-08-03 22:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an affair. This can happen without physical contact. this is something that could cause problems for you in the futer. There really isn't an easy way out of it. There's possibly feelings there, that can turn on you. I think that I would gently explain that the friendship is great but you have a family. i think it sounds like you may have let it go a little too far emotionally. gotta tell your wife.
2006-08-03 22:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by RayvenShayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just tell her... stop being dishonest or you'll hurt everyone involved. If you truly love your wife and your family you'll do the right thing. I'm thinking there is a reason you married the woman your with. Though you haven't done anything it's wrong to keep that kind of information from her. Are you night proud of the fact that your married and have a family... you should be flaunting that night hiding it. This person will respect you more if your honest with her.
2006-08-03 22:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push what to the next level?Seems to me like you want to be more than friends because if you didn't,as friends,she'd know your wife and you wouldn't have to tell her next week,because she'd already know.How DARE you ,being married,get yourself in the situation where you might cheat??I hate to tell you,but you are hurting your wife,family,and the new woman.Wake up!!!!Do NOT cheat on your wife,end this so called friendship now and put this energy into your marriage like you should have been doing.
2006-08-03 23:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I don't think anyone wants to touch this one with a 10 foot pole. Basically, being married, you can't have any female friends that you hang out with alone without your wife being freaked out about it. Also, as you grow deeper in your friendship, something sexual or physical is bound to happen. Just go ahead and tell your female friend and that'll probably end your friendship anyway, so not much to worry about.
2006-08-03 21:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by bombhaus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are married and then find someone else to hang with (male). If she is just a friend you should had told her before now. And do not be alone with her that way there is no chance of it going to the next level
2006-08-04 00:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by sue h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good can your friendship with this girl be anyway when she doesn't even know you have a wife and family?? And its not very fair to your wife and kids that you keep them hidden when you meet someone new....you should be talking very proudly about them, wear your wedding ring, have pictures of the kids in your wallet, mention them in every day conversations. Maybe its time to take a close look at yourself and whats really important to you to begin with?
2006-08-03 22:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her - your wife is more important than this girl anyway. If she doesn't want to hang out with you anymore thats your fault for not being up front in the first place.
2006-08-03 22:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by VL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since nothing has happened todate, no harm-no foul, Jusy tell her you enjoy her company and want to remain friends but, The fact of the matter is your married. Also it's important to tell her that you would not have let anything happen because of it. However, you'd like to remain friends if she can deal with it.
No matter how you tell her, if she likes you, it's gonna hurt.
Hope this helps !!!
2006-08-03 22:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋