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Question

My girlfriends pregnant and wanted to tell her mom shes getting an abortion. but i told her not to because her mom recently lost her son (my girlfriends brother) to suicide and hasnt been well did i do the right thing

my girlfriend and i are 17. weve been together for three years.

my girlfriend also told me if she did go full term that she would not give the child up her mom got pregnant with her at the same age and she doesnt want the life she had for any of her kids. but like i said i support her in anything she does

Answer 1

This doesn't sound like a good situation, no matter what she does. However, I personally think she should tell her mother in order to avoid hard feelings later. The two of them should discuss it thoroughly.

Answer 2

Abortion is a BIG decision not to be taken lightly. My mates sister fell pregnant through no fault of her own(if you get my drift) at a young age of 12 abortion was thought to be the only way out!! she fought against it and had the baby much to many peoples disgust......now that child is 10 the mother is23 and doing great....moral of the story do what you want when you want and respect others to do the same. She knows her mom better than you do and is obviously crying out for help of an adult whom she is close/comfortable with. Huni dont worry all will be fine
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Answer 3

You did well. But why do you have to impregnate anyone when you both are not ready for marriage? That is the only place you goofed. However, it will be best for the two of you to see the old woman together and straighten things out. If your gf is bent on telling her mom its because she is afraid and you may not be able to do anything about that. Even to go through safest abortion will be scary to her.
May the Lord grant you wisdom.

Answer 4

This is a very difficult moment for everyone in the family, talk to your girlfriend about the feeling of losing, even if she think or both thinks this is the right decision, Don't forget you guys will always gonna feel emptiness about the baby. Is very difficult to recover emotionally from those kind of decisions because there is no way back to fix it. Plus losing a brother could make everything worse, she can fall in a very bad depression and her mother too.

Answer 5

She doesn't have to tell her mother she's getting an abortion. The law doesn't require her to. And if her mom's kind of fragile right now, and she wants to tell her, just have your girlfriend tell her at a later time.

And if you both have decided you want an abortion, that's fine. Don't let these other morons talk you out of something just because they claim it's "wrong." It's YOUR choice. You guys choose what's right for you.

Answer 6

Alex, you need to refer to my other answer to you.  I know that you felt like you were doing the right thing for her mom but I can assure you that we moms are made out of sterner stuff than what most folks give us credit for.
Having an abortion is an extremely emotional thing. Even if the woman is sure she knows what she is doing it is a hard hard thing to do. Not just going in somewhere and having something removed from your body and your mind. There are hormones involved and most women that I have been friends with that had an abortion (7 of them off the top of my head) mourned their child deeply. Most still stand by the decision and would have made it again but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with. A woman, especially a 17 year old girl needs her mother through this. I know that you are going to help her through it the best you can but there are things that we girls need our mothers for and this would be a BIGGIE. Alex, I am the mother of two beautiful girls, I could forgive a boy for getting them pregnant especially if they were with someone for three years and he seemed to be as caring a young man as you are coming across as. I could even stand beside them through this decision that the two of you are making. (Although it would be one of the hardest things I have ever done and I would try and talk you both out of it at first) I can promise you that I would NEVER forgive a boy who convinced one of my daughters to go through something like this with out me. Let her have her mom through this Alex, you wont regret it in the long run. Much peace to you Sweetie in this hard time and much love and peace to your girlfriend.

Answer 7

No, but i dont believe in abortion so my answer is biased i guess. I believe everything happens for a reason and abortion is murder which both of you will have to answer to one day.

Think of what you said that her mother is upset for losing her son wouldn't it make her happy then to get a grandchild which can help her move on as well as help you and your girlfriend to become more responsible.

P.S. If you are worried about finances im sure her parents will help out... mistakes happen but no-one is perfect!

Answer 8

Although you are acting out on the best interests of your girlfriends' mum, you have to understand that getting an abortion is a hard and emotional thing for a girl. She will probably want someone to talk to, and if she has a close relationship with her mum, she will want to talk to her. If you feel it is best that she doesnt talk to her, tell her your reasons, and suggest someone else that she could talk to, to get things off her mind.

Answer 9

The right thing to do is not let her get one at all there are other things that she can do with a child she does not want or is not ready to have. I was adopted and there are others out there that I know including my friend that would love to have a child but cant so there is someone out there that would be willing to take care of her child rather then kill it.

Answer 10

r u sure u want an abortion?
what about keepin the baby and making it like a new kid for her mother?
yes u did the rite thing for now, but think over the abortion thing.
mebbe a grand child wud make her happy!

Answer 11

JUST GO HERE....
http://www.anael.org/english/abortion/